Question : I have been in a relationship with a boy for 2 months, but he is not giving me time. He spends most of his time with his friends who are both boys and girls. He doesn’t want to tell his friends about me. Now he is forcing me for a physical relationship. When I asked him about marriage, he denied that he cannot marry me but even if he marries another girl, he will be in a relationship with me. What should I do now?Teentalker
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your concern.
I can understand your worry and confusion. There is always a voice in us that gives us the intuition that what we are doing is right or not. I would suggest you hear that voice within yourself and trust that.
As you said that you are in a relationship for just 2 months. It is difficult to know about anyone in this much time. Also, the boy wanted to have physical contact with you within these 2 months of relationship with you. Before saying anything to him ask yourself, will you be comfortable with that? Will you be okay with having physical contact with someone who denies to be with you or to marry you from the very beginning?
The last thing is if someone really likes you and wants to be with you then they will not ask you to indulge physically with him. The right person will talk to you and make you feel confident about him and your relationship. At that time you will also be sure for that person and won’t ask these questions to anyone because you already have answers with you.
What you can do now is when you are chatting normally, make him understand with patience that you need more time to be sure about him and set the limits like how much intimacy you want. Of course, physical intimacy is part of any romantic relationship but you both should be confident and comfortable about that. If he still forces you, then it’s better for you to understand this red flag.
Remember, you will come across many people in your life, only the genuine ones will be there for you forever. Never allow anyone to play with your feelings.
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