Question : I had a crush on a guy, but it’s not like I would die for him or anything of that sort. So, I wrote a letter where I mentioned about my feelings and gave it to my parents. My father was furious. I don’t have close friends, so I don’t know whom to share my problems with. Teentalker , 16-year-old
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
As far as the response to your query is concerned, remember that, feeling attracted to a boy is a normal and a natural phase that every teenager goes through. However, the outcome of the situation will depend on the way you deal with those feelings.
In your situation, you chose to write a letter and be honest about your feelings.Unfortunately, when you shared the same with your parents, they weren’t very accepting of the situation. Infact, your father was furious and I know how terribly frustrating this can be! Especially, when it’s NOT YOUR FAULT!
Here are a few suggestions, to help you get through this difficult phase:
1.Understand that your parents belong to a different generation and grew up in an era where talking about attraction and relationships openly was not considered acceptable.
2.In order to give you an in-depth understanding about relationships,
3.You can also work on tools such as ‘ 20 things I love about myself’, ‘The MPS Process’, ‘Boost your self-esteem’,
4.Meditate: Mindfulness through meditation, will not only help you to calm down, but also give you the much-needed clarity,in terms of what you should do next.
5.Feeling lonely can be bothersome! Well, to sort out all the confusion, it is important to get to know yourself better and know how to deal with peer pressure
6. Also, being aware of what your life values and your long term goals are will help you to live well!
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Regards,
Expert Teentalk India