Question : I’ve been dealing with a lot of problems right from my childhood. My parents have been married for at least 16-17 years. Their’s was a love marriage, but my dads family never accepted my mom, I along with my mom have been staying with her family, My dad treats me and my mom like some sort of thrash. Abuse and domestic violence has now become a common thing. I have so many restrictions on myself, now he wants me to stop my education!, I just can’t take this shit anymore! well, not just me, my mom too! I’m trying to convince her to get divorce,what’s the point of such a useless marriage? I don’t wanna live with either of my parents,&nb
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It certainly seems like you have gone through a lot since a very young age and it can certainly be stressful, especially because of the estranged relationships between your parents.
It is really unfortunate that you have witnessed constant quarrels and fights among your parents and have been subject to constant abuse from your father, which can certainly be very distressing and extremely frustrating!
Fortunately, there are ways to overcome all that you have been going through, no matter how difficult or next to impossible it may seem. To begin with, you need to learn to calm down and relax (easier said than done), but definitely worth a try! You can also start working on ‘Suffered from abuse- The Safe Place Exercise’ by clicking on the following link:
The next thing you can do is to make a list of those factors in life which you can control and those factors in life which you cannot control. As far as your parents’ situation is concerned, this is a very serious matter and so becoming aware of laws related to child custody can surely help. I’m sharing with you some information, that might potentially be of some help. Please click on the following link to know more:
For additional guidance, I would highly recommend you also reach out to other professionals who might be in a better position to offer you guidance or support related to your situation. You can do so by calling up the helplines listed in the link below:
You can also try and approach a professional for face to face counselling, if possible and if it is realistic for you. To know more about Psychologists practicing in Maharashtra, please visit our yellow pages section, by clicking on the following link:
Another thing you can do to stay motivated and keep going forward in life is to start focusing on your career, regardless of the resistance you face at home. This is a great way to get out of this abusive situation you are in, even if it takes time. Get some insights on career opportunities available for people like you as that will keep you going and give you a lot to look forward to. To know more about how to go about making the right career choice, please click on the following link:
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