Question : A few days ago my girlfriend and I were studying together in her house. After some time we became intimate with each other but did not lose our virginity. As we were being intimate, her family saw us doing so. After this, she did not talk to me and ignored me for a month but after that again patched up with me and we continued our relationship. We still feel uncomfortable about that incident and don’t know how to take this forward as her family is also very con
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out to us with your concern. I see you have a lot on your mind. I understand the whole situation and feel the need to say that you both have been through quite a lot together at such a young age.
Being in a relationship at any age is difficult. Relationships are complex and have many layers to them. As teenagers, sometimes we can lose our composure and behave unexpectedly. Our hormones and other body functions are out of control during our teenage years as we are constantly changing during that time which is very natural and normal.
I want to let you know that losing your virginity before the age of 18 is a legal offence. Both partners need to be 18 years old to be provide consent for sexual activities. Please keep this in mind. x
Your relationship has reached a point where you may be feeling a little guilty for what you did and also embarrassed that everyone in her family saw you in a vulnerable state. It is good to remember that what you did was not wrong. We all are curious about the physical aspects of our own and others’ bodies and it is okay to explore. What is important is that you take precautions and set healthy boundaries based on mutual expectations and understanding.
As per being with each other is concerned, if that is what both of you are looking for, take your time to offer each other and yourselves forgiveness which will allow you to let go of the past incident and move forward in a healthy and fresh manner. Holding onto the incident can cause conflict between partners and it is healthy to let them go. Talking about it with each other openly and sharing your true feelings and thoughts would be helpful.
Being mindful of each other’s and your own needs and values is key in such situations. Keeping these in mind and communicating openly can help you restore your relationship.
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