Thank you for sharing your concern with us. It must be so frustrating to be around people with whom you don’t feel comfortable. Meeting new people and making new friends is a process. Patience and persistence are necessary......
Thank you for sharing your concern with us. It must be so frustrating to be around people with whom you don’t feel comfortable. Meeting new people and making new friends is a process. Patience and persistence are necessary.
Start doing things that make you happy when you are alone. Have you thought why things are happening the way they are, why do people behave the way they behave? Sometimes the behaviour, reactions and responses of others act like a mirror reflecting to us how we look to them and what makes them behave the way they do towards us. Please analyse whether you are a serious person, critical, judgemental, shy, self-conscious, feeling inferior, inadequate, too rigid in standards, how is your sense of humour and fun, are you spontaneous in your expressions, etc. This is the way life is, you can't change them, what you can change is your response to them by being assertive and forthright, and the views you take of such people. To have a friend, you have to be friendly and agreeable, fun to be with type yourself, and a pleasant presence. You also need to be kind, compassionate and caring. You can join yoga, dance or karate centre just to be with people, interact and implement the changes that you want. Sit down; think calmly, nobody can take away your peace from you. Make the effort, resolve and get a move on to restructure your life and be happy in the way you are. Here is an article which can help you further with your journey of finding more people and making new friends.
Hope this is helpful. If you wish to discuss your query further, please chat with us from Monday through Saturday between 11am and 8pm or leave us an offline message.
Expert, Teentalk India
If you have a story to share Click Here.
If you have a query,Click Here.
You can also chat with the counsellor by clicking onTeentalk Expert Chat.