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My parent constantly compare me to my elder brother who is the ‘perfect child’, I’ve started hating them for this comparison.

Question : My brother is 3 years older than I am, and he is the “perfect child”. Always a class topper in school and college, he’s also the star of his school football team, and an accomplished guitarist as well. He is the apple of my parents’ eyes. On the other hand, I was never good in studies, I don’t know what I want to become, and I suck at sports too. I try, but my heart isn’t in it. Constant comparison with him is making me feel depressed and anxious, and I’ve started hating him and resenting my parents. I don’t want it to be like this, what do I do? Teentalker , 14-year-old

Dear Teentalker,

Thank you for writing in – so many people wait till they’re much older to face this, and the sooner we address it, the easier life will get from here! It sounds like you’ve got a classic case of doubting your unique worth! Feeling compared to anyone can happen at any point in your life – this happens to be yours. And I know how especially it sucks to be compared to your sibling – it can make you feel inadequate and inferior. Here are some active steps you can take:

  • Focus on your skills, big and small – the mo.....

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