Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about topics that are considered uncomfortable in our society and congratulations to you for doing that and it is not wrong for you to think that way! That is the first step towards trying to make things better for you!
Teen years are an interesting phase of life since this is the time where you are exploring yourself in every possible way, be it emotionally, sexually, physically. This is also the time when you start feeling attracted towards other boys and would possibly like to go ahead and be in a relati.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about topics that are considered uncomfortable in our society and congratulations to you for doing that and it is not wrong for you to think that way! That is the first step towards trying to make things better for you!
Teen years are an interesting phase of life since this is the time where you are exploring yourself in every possible way, be it emotionally, sexually, physically. This is also the time when you start feeling attracted towards other boys and would possibly like to go ahead and be in a relationship with one of them.
Your opinions on relationships is different from the way your parents think, possibly because you are growing up in an era where people talk more openly about crushes and attraction as compared to your parents' generation, where talking about such things was unacceptable and so was a person choosing their own life partner.
Majority of Indians, till date opt for arrange-marriages though the scenario is starting to change. Marriages between people of different faith (that is different religions) is starting to find acceptance in some parts of certain big cities in India, though it will be a while before the overall mindset changes.
So, at this stage, I would request you to try and read as much as you can about and try to understand more about relationships and love by clicking on the following link: https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships
The other concern that most Indian parents usually have is that if they allow their child to be in a relationship with a person from a different background since a young age, then they might get 'spoilt'. So, it is important to let your parents know that no matter what you are serious about your future and try to show that by helping out in the household work and doing well in studies and/or extra-curricular activities. You also need to let them know that you care about them regardless of the other people who walk in and out of your life.
You can also read through the following articles to know more about getting parents to think the way you do: https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships/5-ways-to-get-your-parents-in-your-team
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships/5-things-you-can-say-to-your-strict-desi-parents ( 5 things you can say to your strict desi parents)
Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalk Experts from Mondays to Saturdays: 11am-8pm
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Expert Teentalkindia
