Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns. Having a crush on a guy as a teenager is fairly normal and it is only natural to feel that way if the guy you are attracted to is good at studies and quite popular among his cohort.
So, if he hates you and finds you irritating, then here are some things I would like you to think through:
Perhaps, you are not the first girl to like him. There must have been many who went after him and as much as this is a privilege, from his perspective, this can also feel quite annoying. Another possibility is that if there are others who like him, just lik.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns. Having a crush on a guy as a teenager is fairly normal and it is only natural to feel that way if the guy you are attracted to is good at studies and quite popular among his cohort.
So, if he hates you and finds you irritating, then here are some things I would like you to think through:
Perhaps, you are not the first girl to like him. There must have been many who went after him and as much as this is a privilege, from his perspective, this can also feel quite annoying. Another possibility is that if there are others who like him, just like you do, then he has the privilege of choosing who he should shower all his attention on and who he should ignore and stay away from. Most importantly, though if a person does not like you, don't worry. This does not mean that there is anything wrong with you. Perhaps, you too, might not have that much in common or probably have different set of values, that is you prioritize different things in life.
One effective way of dealing with this situation is to first become comfortable with your identity and become self-aware. So, the best way to get started is by figuring out what your values are. To begin with, please work on the tools:
'Values Worksheet' by clicking on the following link: https://www.teentalkindia.com/toolbox
You can also work on the tools 'You are so worth it' and 'Boost your self-esteem' by clicking on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/body-image-selfesteem (scroll to the bottom to view the tools and begin working on the same)
In order to figure yourself out better, please work on the following tools:
'20 things I love about myself' and 'Become an effective person' by clicking on the following link: https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships (scroll to the bottom to view the tools and begin working on the same).
Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalk Experts from Mondays to Saturdays: 11am-8pm
Regards,
Expert Teentalkindia
