Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your concern.
I can understand how difficult it is for you to choose one. Being a part of a close-knit friends' circle can be a beautiful feeling, where love, affection is in abundance and a sense of belonging is really strong. However, if someone in that group wishes to be more than friends with you and you are not comfortable and confident about that then it is better to not go there. Otherwise, if you force yourself to be his girlfriend because of the condition he had put on you, you might be doing injustice to both of you, and later your friendship might.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your concern.
I can understand how difficult it is for you to choose one. Being a part of a close-knit friends' circle can be a beautiful feeling, where love, affection is in abundance and a sense of belonging is really strong. However, if someone in that group wishes to be more than friends with you and you are not comfortable and confident about that then it is better to not go there. Otherwise, if you force yourself to be his girlfriend because of the condition he had put on you, you might be doing injustice to both of you, and later your friendship might be spoiled.
It is better to tell him in an assertive way that what are your expectations from him and if he thinks he can fulfill them by being a good friend like he used to be then everything can get back to normal, and if he couldn't then he has to make a choice that whether he wants her to be your friend or just boyfriend.
You can watch videos on 'How to be assertive' and '5 tips on how to be more assertive' to learn more about being firm as well as the importance of respecting boundaries by clicking on the 'videos' tab.
Please go through these helpful links too.
https://www.teentalkindia.com/video/explore/relationships?v_id=60024
https://www.teentalkindia.com/toolbox/article/44
https://www.teentalkindia.com/video/explore/relationships?v_id=60038
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