Dear Teentalker
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns. Getting over a break up can surely be painful, because the bond you had formed with your boyfriend was built over a period of time and so getting over him, will also take some time, so allow yourself feel the way you do without feeling too guilty.
However, do remind yourself that if the break up happened, it must have been due to something that was not working out for you. That apart, here are some additional tips you might want to take into consideration in order to make sure that you get over the whole phase and move on:
Acknowledge the fe.....
Dear Teentalker
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns. Getting over a break up can surely be painful, because the bond you had formed with your boyfriend was built over a period of time and so getting over him, will also take some time, so allow yourself feel the way you do without feeling too guilty.
However, do remind yourself that if the break up happened, it must have been due to something that was not working out for you. That apart, here are some additional tips you might want to take into consideration in order to make sure that you get over the whole phase and move on:
Acknowledge the feelings of love and fantasies you had and still have about him and write them down. However, also write down the reason why you broke up; that will give you a reality check. Once you get done with writing down your thoughts, please tear the paper to bits and throw it in the bin. You might also want to read the article on '10 fun things to do after a break up' by clicking on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships/10-fun-things-to-do-after-a-break-up
Shift the focus: Learn to focus on what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. Use this time to build your skills, take up a hobby and make new friends. It will not immediately take the pain away, but will surely relieve you of the stress and confusion you are experiencing.
Practicing mindfulness through meditation is another way of coping with the situation you are going through. Meditation will not only help you to calm down, but will also give you the much needed clarity. To know more, please click on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/mindfulness
To know more, please visit https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/relationships
Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalk Experts from Mondays to Saturdays 11am-8pm.
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