Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reachong us. First take a deep breathe and stay calm.Seeking help is a sign of courage not weakness. The world of relationships is ever changing. And life too is ever changing and in constant motion. Crying (within limits) is a very healthy way of releiving yourself of heavy emotions. Also I am sorry you lost a great friend. It can hurt a lot when a friendship breaks. I completely understand.
Relationships are complex and navigating through them is key. If you have friends who understand that you are in another stream, stick with them. They are the ones who truly value you. Also, you ca.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reachong us. First take a deep breathe and stay calm.Seeking help is a sign of courage not weakness. The world of relationships is ever changing. And life too is ever changing and in constant motion. Crying (within limits) is a very healthy way of releiving yourself of heavy emotions. Also I am sorry you lost a great friend. It can hurt a lot when a friendship breaks. I completely understand.
Relationships are complex and navigating through them is key. If you have friends who understand that you are in another stream, stick with them. They are the ones who truly value you. Also, you cannot control how other people will react to your situations or life circumstances. Some will understand while others may not. Also when it comes to other people taking advantage, that is outside of ones control. All you can do is control how you act or react to external circumstances. Do not get affected by those who seek to gossip about you. If you react their tactics will become successful. Ignore such people and hang out with only those who know your true value and love you as you are. Those who call you ‘artificial’ have already formed their opinion of you. That is on them. You just be yourself.Do not get swayed by their opinions.
Seek support from your friends who love you and value you. Do not pay attention to those who speak ill of you or try and sabotage you. Stay away from negative people if you want to stay centered and grounded in yourself. Love yourself for who and what you are. Do a little bit of meditation and cleansing through deep breathing. Clear your mind before you sleep at night and when you wake up. Listen to motivational speeches and write inspirational quotes. Also say self alleviating affirmations to yourself each day atleast 5 times to boost self confidence and self belief.
And also very important point: never be ashamed of telling your parents or sibling anything. I understand you are growing up and think it may look bad on your part to go through something like this. But family is supposed to be strongest base of support for anyone. Rely on your family for support. They will not let you down. Try and talk to them as much as possible.
Also please remember anyone can go through anything in life at different times. Life is unexpected. Now that you are in this situation just go through the above exercises and you will be able to stay centered and grounded in yourself. Do not over think. Breathe and focus only on yourself and move forward wih those who love you. Cut away the unnecessary clutter from your life. Then you will be free to enjoy the healthy relationships you take forward with you.
I am sharing a few links for you to go through:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/factsheet/relationships/get-the-facts-relationships-15
https://www.teentalkindia.com/toolbox/article/50
https://www.teentalkindia.com/toolbox/article/56 - This is a link that will help you to try and better your present friendhsips so they remain strong.
https://www.teentalkindia.com/toolbox/article/51
Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalkindia Experts from Mondays to Saturdays, 11am to 8pm.
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