Dear Teentalker,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss and am truly devastated for you. It’s only human to feel all these feelings when we lose a loved one. Your feelings may differ from day to day but through it all you need to be kinder to yourself. The process of grief is very individual and such a personal experience. Since it happened 7 months ago and your feelings have intensified more now, you are likely going through a delayed grief response. Let’s begin by taking small steps to getting you back to a more functional you.
- Make sure you eat an.....
Dear Teentalker,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss and am truly devastated for you. It’s only human to feel all these feelings when we lose a loved one. Your feelings may differ from day to day but through it all you need to be kinder to yourself. The process of grief is very individual and such a personal experience. Since it happened 7 months ago and your feelings have intensified more now, you are likely going through a delayed grief response. Let’s begin by taking small steps to getting you back to a more functional you.
- Make sure you eat and stay hydrated even if you're not hungry/thirsty.
- Get light exercise, even if it's going for a brief walk around your neighborhood, preferably with a friend.
- Try sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or family member. Building a support system is important. Reach out to his family once a month to share your feelings and check on how they are coping. Knowing you are there for each other through this difficult time will help the process and bring you closer.
- Try Writing/Journaling. You could write a letter addressed to your boyfriend, it may ease you a little by expressing yourself on paper.
- Honor his memory by doing something in his name. Eg, Planting a tree or may be lighting a candle. Read his favorite book or maybe make a scrapbook of his life.
It's okay to grieve and sometimes even to not feel productive at all. Feel all that pain and let it all out. Crying is a natural release of pent up emotions. You can never forget him and no one should ever expect you to, but you will come through it and remember him with love.
To shoulder all this as a teenager, it can sometimes feel too much and extreme thoughts like that of ending your life, can arise if depression has set in, we are not always equipped to deal with these intense emotions but if the intensity of how you feel doesn’t lessen over 2 weeks, consider talking to a counsellor or an adult you are comfortable with who can help you to process these feelings in a healthier more productive way.
My heart is with you in this difficult time. Sending you a warm hug. Remember, you are not alone and we are always here for you.
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Regards,
Expert Teentalk India
