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I have a possessive and controlling boyfriend. I love him but I also want my freedom.

Question: My boyfriend is very possessive to the point where I think he is being controlling and abusive. He doesn’t let me meet my male friends and calls me a slut if I do. He checks my phone and gets furious if a guy friend has Whatsapped me. I feel anxious if I get a text from anyone.. I love him. I guess, but I also want my freedom, and I sometimes worry that nobody will love me as much as he does. Teentalker , 17-year-old

Dear Teentalker,

You’ve hit the nail on its head – what you’re describing counts as emotional abuse.

Here are a few active steps you can take to help yourself:

In Brief:

  • Have a conversation explaining both yours and your boyfriend’s right to privacy
  • Set boundaries by changing your phone settings
  • Be firm when he is calling you names
  • Try and extend some understanding by asking about his need for control

First, calling you a slut or whore is not okay. Policing who m.....

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