Dear Teentalker,
Firsty, you should be proud of your achievements so a big congratulations and keep up the good work. Boarding school life can have it's own challenges. Ignoring is one option as most people look for a reaction and by not giving it to them you win half the battle. Even if one is rude, always remember it's not about You. Most times, these people are dealing with their own challenges which tends to make them react in an unhealthy manner. If these batch mates are bullying and troubling you a lot, reach out to a trusted teacher/adult and shar.....
Dear Teentalker,
Firsty, you should be proud of your achievements so a big congratulations and keep up the good work. Boarding school life can have it's own challenges. Ignoring is one option as most people look for a reaction and by not giving it to them you win half the battle. Even if one is rude, always remember it's not about You. Most times, these people are dealing with their own challenges which tends to make them react in an unhealthy manner. If these batch mates are bullying and troubling you a lot, reach out to a trusted teacher/adult and share your concern. Anger issues could arise due to various reasons. Anger is an emotion that could be triggered due to a situation or may be a person or an event that occurred. The first step to managing anger is understanding where it's stemming from. Once you are aware of it, try avoiding those situations but if its unavoidable, you have enough time to anticipate and prepare as you now understand what causes you to get angry. A couple pointers to help you:
- Try responding and explaining your anger instead of reacting and expressing it negatively.
- Walk away from the situation or person if possible when you are just too angry and come back to it and address it when you are in a better frame of mind. Go for a walk if you need to, that will help clear your mind.
- Sit with your emotion and ask yourself, What really is bothering you right now? Anger is an indicator that something needs to be changed to improve things in the future
- Just Breathe and get some exercise. Physical activity even if it’s just a short jog will help to reduce the stress causing you to feel angry.
- Try working on the issue that has been troubling you to help you resolve it. Identify possible solutions. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.
- Try writing a forgiveness letter. You don't have to send it. This is just a way of feeling lighter of that heavy anger you've been feeling.
A little exercise you could do: Try visualizing a scene in which you got angry and replay the tape several times in your head, each time envisioning yourself responding in a different way. This will help you rehearse different responses and provide you with new options. The next time you’re close to losing your temper, one of these options will pop into your mind, providing you with a better response.
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