Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It is wonderful to know that you're so sincere, so dedicated and motivated to do well in life! That's an amazing quality to have and something you ought to be proud of! Keep that going!
Now, coming back to the concern you were talking about, it seems like you were doing really well till class 8th and after that for one reason or the other you found yourself struggling to do well in studies, even though you wanted to. This was also the phase when you came to realize that your friends weren't your true friends after all and realiz.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It is wonderful to know that you're so sincere, so dedicated and motivated to do well in life! That's an amazing quality to have and something you ought to be proud of! Keep that going!
Now, coming back to the concern you were talking about, it seems like you were doing really well till class 8th and after that for one reason or the other you found yourself struggling to do well in studies, even though you wanted to. This was also the phase when you came to realize that your friends weren't your true friends after all and realizing that can be pretty painful. Sometimes, the thoughts that could often cross our mind at such times could include, " But we were friends for so long, how could things change all of a sudden?" or sometimes, you might go out of the way to please people and yet, it doesn't seem to be working out! Well, the reason for that has little to do with studies but more to do with the teenage phase you are going through and how the nature of relationships and peer pressure which sometimes takes over, can impact your studies and in some cases, your health, too!
So, going forward, if you want to do well in life, you need to figure out what matters the most to you in life. For this, you need to work on the 'Values Worksheet' tool.
It is important to be aware of your values as you are more likely to do well in life, if there is a match between your values and those of the surroundings. This would also mean that if you want to do well in life, you need to surround yourself with friends and people who will encourage you to grow and become a better version of yourself! To know more about selecting friends who are good for your well-being, please read the article on 'The good side of peer pressure.'
Focus on living a meaningful and a purposeful life. Believe in yourself and in your dreams and consciously work towards it. Because, when you follow your dreams , you will meet people who follow theirs!
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