Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reaching out.
It can hurt a great deal when people make fun of you and that too, on the basis of your skin colour, something you have no control over.
Also, thanks to the culture we live in, there are certain stereotypes that are deeply rooted in our society; like, for example, 'Fair skinned people are good looking, dark-skinned people are not.' The other stereotype that runs deeply in our culture is that people who have sharp features are considered better looking as compared to others. Fortunately, all of that is changing slowly but surely, though things will t.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for reaching out.
It can hurt a great deal when people make fun of you and that too, on the basis of your skin colour, something you have no control over.
Also, thanks to the culture we live in, there are certain stereotypes that are deeply rooted in our society; like, for example, 'Fair skinned people are good looking, dark-skinned people are not.' The other stereotype that runs deeply in our culture is that people who have sharp features are considered better looking as compared to others. Fortunately, all of that is changing slowly but surely, though things will take time.
So, to be perceived as good looking by others, you, first need to be comfortable with your own identity. You can start by working on the tools, 'You are so worth it'; 'Thank you Dear Body' and 'Boost your self-esteem' by clicking on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/body-image-selfesteem
(scroll to the bottom to view the tool and to begin working on it).
In order to know more about dealing with dark skinned complexion and how stereotypes are slowly being shattered in the process, please read the following article on 'Facing up to your skin colour' by clicking on the link below:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/body-image-selfesteem/facing-up-to-your-skin-colour You also mentioned about your parents giving you a lot of career tension. A lot of time distress related to careers, stems from lack of understanding about the variety of options that exist today. So, in order to make the right career choice, you need to have the required aptitude, interest as well as the intelligence type. Only having one of these is not enough. To know more about your intelligence type, please read through the following article:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/career-guidance/what-kind-of-intelligence-do-you-have-find-out What is the connection between your career choice and your personality -
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/career-guidance/what-is-the-connection-between-career-choices-and-your-personality Team Teentalk shares learnings from the movie '3 Idiots'. Please click on the following link to know more:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/career-guidance/we-share-learnings-from-movie-3-idiots 7 steps to find your way through the career minefield-
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/career-guidance/7-steps-to-find-your-way-through-the-career-minefield Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalk Experts from Mondays to Saturdays: 11am to 7pm by visiting
www.teentalkindia.com! Regards, Teentalk Expert
