Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for writing to us. I can really understand how sad you feel.
First of all Shivani try to love yourself then people will like you. Start doing things that make you happy when you are alone. Have you thought why things are happening the way they are, why do people behave the way they behave. Sometimes the behaviour, reactions and responses of others act like a mirror reflecting to us how we look to them and what makes them behave the way they do towards us.
Please analyse whether you are a serious person, critical, judgemental, shy, self conscious, feeling inferior, inadequate, too r.....
Dear Teentalker,
Thanks for writing to us. I can really understand how sad you feel.
First of all Shivani try to love yourself then people will like you. Start doing things that make you happy when you are alone. Have you thought why things are happening the way they are, why do people behave the way they behave. Sometimes the behaviour, reactions and responses of others act like a mirror reflecting to us how we look to them and what makes them behave the way they do towards us.
Please analyse whether you are a serious person, critical, judgemental, shy, self conscious, feeling inferior, inadequate, too rigid in standards, how is your sense of humour and fun, are you spontaneous in your expressions, etc. This is the way life is, you can't change them, what you can change is your response to them by being assertive and forthright, and the views you take of such people.
See if you had any emotional deprivation or inhibition from your childhood, or any other experiences that may have shaped your beliefs, views and thinking. You have to revamp your life and restructure your cognitions. To have a friend, you have to be friendly and agreeable, fun to be with type yourself, and a pleasant presence.
Why not join some yoga, dance or karate centre just to be with people, interact and implement the changes that you want. Sit down, think calmly, nobody can take away your peace apart from yourself. Make the effort, resolve and get a move on to restructure your life an be happy in the way you are. Hope this helps, if you have any other query do connect online for chat between 11am-8pm or drop us an offline message.
Regards,
Expert Teentalk India
