Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about your past which is painful and more so, because a family member was involved in this abuse. Good to know that it has stopped, but getting over that abuse and letting go of unpleasant memories often takes time, but with the right techniques and strategies, it is possible to get through this phase and move on. No one can change what has already happened, but you have the power to learn some valuable lessons from the experiences you have had and rise above all the negativity you have been through.
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Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about your past which is painful and more so, because a family member was involved in this abuse. Good to know that it has stopped, but getting over that abuse and letting go of unpleasant memories often takes time, but with the right techniques and strategies, it is possible to get through this phase and move on. No one can change what has already happened, but you have the power to learn some valuable lessons from the experiences you have had and rise above all the negativity you have been through.
Here are a few tips, I would like to suggest in order to help you get through this phase:
The first step towards healing is to find yourself a safe place, where you can calm down and feel relaxed and be yourself. So, to begin with, please begin working on the tool 'Suffered from abuse'- The Safe Place Exercise by clicking on the following link: https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/abuse (scroll to the bottom to view the tool and begin working on the same)
Trauma and grief cannot be eradicated, but rather, we have to learn to accept what has happened, process it and then only moving on will be possible. Also, knowing that you are the not only one suffering from abuse, can motivate and empower you to come out and talk about your problem in the open. To know more, about ways through which you can heal, please read the following stories:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/abuse/yogini-natasha-noel-s-journey-from-childhood-abuse-to-self-love (Journey from childhood abuse to self-love)
Forgiveness or releasing that grudge you hold against the person who has done you wrong is not easy, but forgiving the person who has hurt you is necessary, not because your cousin deserves it, but because, you deserve to live in peace. To know more, please work on the tool- Forgiveness Hook (How do you forgive?) by clicking on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/abuse (scroll to the bottom to begin working on the tool and begin working on the same)
You can also work on the tools 'You are so worth it', 'Thank you dear body' and 'Boost your self-esteem' by clicking on the following link:
https://www.teentalkindia.com/explore/body-image-selfesteem (scroll to the bottom to begin working on the tools)
Use your judgment and stay away from your cousin, if he still makes you uncomfortable in anyway!
Hope this helps! If you need further clarifications, please feel free to write back or you can chat with the Teentalk Experts from Mondays to Saturdays: 11am-8pm
Regards,
Expert Teentalkindia
