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Suicide is not the solution to your problems in life

A teenager's tale of surviving comparison with his elder brother

Growing up with an elder sibling who is a rank-holder in school has its pitfalls. As a young boy, Rishabh was subjected to comparison from his teachers and students. Every time Rishabh would score good marks, the teachers would often give credit to his elder brother for inspiring him. On the other hand, at home, his parents would often criticise him for not being as good as his elder brother.

The pressure to be as good as his brother doubled when the board exams were around the corner. Every time Rishabh would sit to study, his attention would drift to the gold medal his brother received when he topped in 12th board. In a fraction of a second, he would lose some part of his self-confidence. Some part of his self-esteem slipped a notch.

On the outside, Rishabh would project an image that everything is alright, from the inside he was sinking. His heart sank even lower when relatives would pop up in the house and would automatically start praising his elder brother for his achievements, completely side-lining Rishabh for his efforts.

Soon, with trembling confidence and the pressure to out-perform his own brother, he appeared for the grade 12 board exams. After every exam, he would build a façade of cheerfulness but deep inside he knew that he might not get as many marks as his brother.

He started to self-blame. He started to criticize himself. He started to internalise the belief that he is not good enough. This ruminative thought pattern stuck with him for months till the exam results did not come out. But once they did, and he did not score as much as his brother, he felt his self-esteem going down the drain.

Soon, he lost all hope and started contemplating suicide. Believing that ending his life will be the solution to his problems seemed the perfect idea to his fear-ridden mind. He would wake up every morning with suicidal thoughts. His brother happened to visit home during this phase and realised that things are not right with Rishabh. He started talking to him and understood his depressed state of mind. Furthermore, he understood that Rishabh needs professional counselling.

Teentalk India Expert Kshitija Sawant suggests tips on how to combat suicidal thoughts:

1. It is important to focus on what you’re good at and start working towards those goals.

2. Most importantly, while working hard, make sure, you’re persistent and stay positive.

3. This is easier said than done, but if you believe in yourself, then one day the world will come to believe in your potential as well.

4. The power of positive thinking is one of the best ways to combat suicidal thinking.

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Blue Whale challenge claims another teen life – Friends, look out for each other!

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Even after constant warnings from the government and the continuous alarm that has been raised across Social Media, the vicious and life-threatening online game – Blue Whale challenge has managed to claim yet another innocent teenage life.

A 19 year old engineering student from BITS PILANI Hyderabad campus has reportedly committed suicide by suffocating himself with a plastic sheet wrapped around his face.

The victim T Varun was found dead at his residence in Maple Town Villas at Gandipet in Hyderabad. "We suspect he might have committed suicide while taking the challenge in the Blue Whale game. We have recovered his laptop and sent it for detailed forensic analysis" – said Inspector of Police, V Umender as he spoke to India Today.

Earlier the Hyderabad Cyber Crimes Police had issued an advisory on the game, asking parents, education institutions and children to be cautious.

Watch out for these signs and symptoms

The government has specified that parents, guardians and most importantly friends must watch out for these signs and symptoms to detect a Blue Whale victim…

  • Watch out for long online presence at odd hours
  • Look out for the teen waking up at odd hours of the night (3-4 a.m) and watching a movie or videos (Horror or Psychedelic)
  • Watch out for cuts, marks or pinpricks on the body. Victims are usually urged to cut or hurt themselves and carve "f57" or a blue whale on their body.
  • Look for sudden changes in temperament, odd behavior and mood swings. If a teen – be it in your friend circle or family – suddenly becomes reclusive or moody, you need to wary.

Friends avert tragedy, save a teen from Blue Whale

In August 2017, a Kolkata student playing the Blue Whale game was rescued by his friends as they spotted the whale etching on him and alerted the teachers who in turn informed the registrar Mr Tapas Satapathi.

Tapas Satapathi, later in an interview to NDTV said "I had seen some awareness campaigns on social media done by the Criminal Investigation Department or CID of the West Bengal police. So I immediately knew the gravity of the situation. I called the police for help. And the parents."

The CID inspector who had intervened was glad the awareness campaign had come in handy. "I did not initially tell the student I was police. I said I was a counselor. He was afraid that if he stopped playing, he might start getting phone calls from people called curators and engage with those who continue to play after the first few stages" he told NDTV.

The boy was lucky as his friends managed to avert the tragedy just in time. The boy was then counseled in presence of his parents. "I am very grateful for the intervention of my friends, teachers and the CID officer" the boy said.

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