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Human minds are capable of beautiful things like thinking and feeling while also finding ways of suppressing pain in any way possible. However, the process of self-harm comes in the way and acts as a mask for the emotional pain and distress felt due to a situation or experience. When emotional pain or negative feelings like shame, guilt, disgust, low self-esteem, stress, escalate, physical pain seems to become lesser of two evils.
When people are in that moment and ready to harm/injure themselves, rational thinking and behaving is difficult to achieve. However, making a list of different activities which can be done instead of self-harm can be helpful. It’s also important to remember that not all acts of self-harm are suicidal attempts. Some are non-suicidal attempts in order to cause external pain or escape emotional distress.
Here are some things to do to distract, release, express yourself during a moment of urge to self-harm. Whether you have five minutes of fifteen, find your preferred choice of an alternative and go with it.
Things you can do in five minutes
1. How many singers can you name?
2. Say the 19 table
3. Count all the odd numbers from 511 to 627
4. Think of an animal for ever alternate letter of the alphabet
5. Count everything that is green around you
6. Look at a book which has pictures or words you enjoy
7. Wrap yourself in a warm, cosy blanket or sheet
8. Organize photos on your phone/laptop
9. Keep some playing dough / clay with you and make things from it
10. Burst bubble wrap
11. Put on your headphones and listen to loud music
12. Run on the spot and see how long you can do it for
13. Scribble on a piece of paper with a red marker or pen and then trash it
14. Put a rubber band around your wrist or leg and flick it
15. Mark the part of your body which you are trying to hurt with a red marker
16. Apply ice cube on the part of the body which you are trying to harm
17. Comb your hair slowly and gently
18. Eat something sweet like chocolate, sugar, banana, etc
19. Wait for five minutes before harming yourself, then another five minutes and so forth until your urge passes
Things you can do in fifteen minutes
20. Bake something
21. Go for a walk, if you can
22. Write down names of films you have seen in alphabetical order
23. Organize your closet/wardrobe
24. Rearrange things in your room
25. Take a bath
26. Find and write down positive quotes said by other people
27. Count your hair strands one by one
28. Dance or move your body for at least five whole songs
29. Send long distance friends a letter or postcard
30. Post something positive on social media
31. If you can get helium balloons, tie your negative thoughts to them and let the balloons go
32. Write five things that you are grateful for
33. Download the ThinkUp application and record positive messages on it and listen to them
34. Stand with your feet grounded firmly on that floor, look up and breathe very slowly for as long as you can
35. Call a trusted person and ask them to share some jokes with you
36. If you have a ball, throw it on the wall and catch it
37. Go outside and run really fast if you can
38. Write a letter to yourself about how grateful you are to be alive and safe
39. Play a musical instrument really loudly if you can
40. Ground yourself by finding 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can touch and 1 thing that you can taste around you.
Self-harm is not the way out of a difficult situation but a way to cope with them when everything else seems futile. Remember, this doesn’t make anybody weak or desperate. It’s okay to feel hurdled and crippled by harsh times and experiences. Having said that, like air, remember to keep rising and breathing. Don’t become a victim, become a survivor. Stay safe, Stay strong.
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Harming yourself when feeling sad, lonely, depressed, etc is a dangerous phenomenon in teens. No matter how relieved one feels after harming themselves, remember you deserve to feel better and you can feel better without harming yourself. Know about self-harm, its consequences and how to overcome it.
What is self-harm?
To many people, self-harm is a way of dealing with emotional pain and stress. It helps them in expressing their feelings they can’t put into words, release emotional pain and distract from what’s causing them trouble. They feel relieved after harming themselves and return to doing the same when they feel hurt again forming a continuous cycle.
Several forms of self-harm include:
Consequences of cutting and self-
How to stop cutting and self-harm
1. Find your confidant
If you’re ready to get help for cutting or self-harm, the first step is to confide in another person. It can be scary to talk about the very thing you have worked so hard to hide, but it can also be a huge relief to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re going through.
Find someone whom you can trust with such personal information, someone who won’t gossip behind your back or try to take control over life. When you are talking about self-harming yourself, focus on your feelings and not the situations that led you into doing self-harm. Communicate in the way you are most comfortable with, it could be in person, through telephone, email text, etc.
2. Identify your triggers of self-harm
Try to figure out what leads you to self-harm. It could be sadness, anger, anxiety, shame, emptiness, etc. If you are unable to point your triggers then you need to work on your emotional awareness. How to do it? Start by understanding what emotional awareness it. It is knowing what feelings you are going through and why. Identify what you are feeling from moment to moment and try to understand the connection between your feelings and your actions. If you let them go, emotions and feelings come and go quickly. Only when you obsess over any particular feeling, it persists in your mind.
3. Find new coping techniques
If you want to stop self-harm, you have to also find alternative ways of coping with difficult situations and unpleasant feelings. You could try these:
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