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How could someone you trusted and loved - and whom you thought loved them back – betray in such a shocking and hurtful way? Not only a sense of anger and upset is there, but also total disbelief. The most frequent reasons of cheating are to do with physical and emotional needs. Such people accept that they weren’t emotionally or physically satisfied in their current relationship or wished to gain extra emotional connection or validation.  On the other hand, least frequent reasons for engaging in some other relations had to do with love—either falling out of love with their partner or falling in love with someone new. Let’s check out why people cheat when they are engaged in relationships:

• To seek revenge: You seek revenge when a relationship is already suffering. The desire to hurt a partner who is (or is perceived as) cheating seems to raise the risks significantly from mere lack of intimacy.
• To try some new experience: Teenagers especially want to try something new, and this desire move beyond curiosity and into some type of contest to measure their sexual ability. People habitually engage in physical activity as a way of satisfying desires and relieving harmful feelings they find hard to control. These feelings can be compulsive.
• Fallen in love with someone else: Teens often falls head over heels for the person with whom they had the affair. Again, emotional closeness plus sexual intimacy seems to be a more important factor that leads partners to stray.
• Emotional validation from someone else: Being valued is a key factor in the emotional connection that partners feel toward each other. Partners may grow apart and, as they do, fail to understand the needs that both have in their relationship.
• Less emotional satisfaction in current relationship:  Seeking physical and emotional intimacy can be a strong reason to have an affair. Sense of disconnection from partner can happen for a variety of reasons. There may be a lack of proper communication or life may be dominated by work, so time together has become more functional rather than loving.
• Personality issues: People who are impulsive may cheat simply as they do not pause to consider the situation, instead act on their immediate thoughts and emotions. Whereas low self-esteem can cause people to be attention seekers—and in some cases; the attention of just one person isn’t enough. It may also cause someone to feel insecure in their relationship, so much so that they might cheat as a way of rejecting rather than being rejected.

Whatever is the case, try to examine the issues together to make sense of things. The person who has cheated need to take responsibility for his/her own behavior as wrong and not to make excuses - although it can be very difficult for the person who has been cheated on. Both partners need to acknowledge their responsibility for what was wrong with the relationship prior to this happening.

The reasons people cheat are many, but there are a number that crop up time and again in the counseling sessions. If you’re struggling to understand why this has happened to you, you may find it useful to connect with our Teentalkindia expert: https://www.teentalkindia.com/email

You know you’re an amazing person, and you also know that others know how amazing you are, but what do you do when mere admiration crosses over the line into jealousy? There are many challenges we face in our relations friendships, especially in friendship. There are many challenges like betrayal, conflict, argument, and even jealousy. A jealous friend creates unnecessary drama and also negatively affects our lives. Jealousy can break even the strongest bonds of friendships and if you avoid acknowledging it, you might lose your friendship as well. However, addressing and getting over a friend’s jealousy can be difficult as it is veiled under layers of denial and hostility.

Let’s understand jealousy

You got excellent remarks from your teacher, or your romance has just begun, or you’ve attained the physique you wanted. Your first reaction will be to share it with people you love the most, especially your family and friends. And when you do that, instead of feeling happy for you, your any particular friend downplays your happiness and achievement and considers it something anyone can do. Consequently, your happiness turns into sorrow and you feel hurt and confused about their behaviour. That is jealousy.

How to deal with a jealous friend

Don’t ignore it

If you don’t pay attention to this matter, things will only get worse, as it will increase the jealousy and displeasure among you two.

Talk it out but gently

Honest communication fixes almost everything. Speak to your friend about how they feel and be patient to what they are saying. Don’t get upset or angry if they criticize you.

Be empathetic

Think about what they might be feeling towards you. How you would like to be confronted if they were you. Maybe you are getting too excited about your achievement and rubbing it in their face.

Give them some time

Once you’ve had a proper conversation with your friend, take a break and let it all get in your head one at a time. Give them some space and don’t push them into thinking good about you or change their perspective immediately.

Give them attention

Curing a jealous person requires plenty of time and attention. You have to surround them with positivity to get rid of the negativity. Remember that jealousy has its roots in low self-confidence and insecurity.

Decide if you still want to be friends

Dealing with a jealous friend can be difficult. And even after all the above-mentioned steps, your friend doesn’t seem to change, it’s time for you to move on as this friendship will turn into a toxic one.

Undeniably, jealousy is a human emotion too, but there are ways to deal with it. You just have to figure out how.