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Fights and arguments are an indispensable part of a relationship. And if you're in a romantic relationship long enough, at some point you and your partner are going to fight. Fighting doesn't mean you're with the wrong person, or that your relationship is doomed. Conflict is an inevitable part of any longstanding human relationship, especially ones that inv.....
Fights and arguments are an indispensable part of a relationship. And if you're in a romantic relationship long enough, at some point you and your partner are going to fight. Fighting doesn't mean you're with the wrong person, or that your relationship is doomed. Conflict is an inevitable part of any longstanding human relationship, especially ones that involve the most intimate parts of our lives. So here are a few ways that can help you deal with your problems and differences rationally without hurting anyone.
Communication is the key
Do not think if this as talking it out as it involves a more complex and patient process- listening. Listen to what your partner has to say patiently. Keep your disagreements for later when he/she is done. Also remember not to bring out previous fights and differences into this one. New fight, new rules.
When we are in a fit of anger, we often say hurtful things which even we regret later. No matter how furious you are, always take three deep breaths before you start to say anything. This will give you time to evaluate what you are about to speak and whether or not you should say it.
Time-out when needed
If you feel the argument is getting too heated up and neither of you are even close to calming down, take a time off from yourselves. Changing locations for a while will give enough space to understand the conflict and how to resolve them.
Consider the trigger
When a fight gets over, you individually need to sit and think whether you want to get into this again or not. If it’s you who was wrong then make sure to rectify your behaviour and try not to repeat it. If it is your partner who has made a mistake, then try to talk to him/her about this. But this should be done only after the issue is resolved and in a calm and non-demeaning way.
Every relationship, whether romantic or not, has certain ups and down. Everyone fights and nobody is perfect. Understand that your partner is also as human as you and has a separate individuality. Differences are unavoidable, but it is the drama and mess that can be controlled.
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