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How to build trust after being cheated

All was going really well with your partner with all smiles and sunshine. But then suddenly one day you found he/she is cheating on you and all hell broke loose. Though this may not be the end of it

Cheating is a synonym to break-up for many. However, there are people who still have feelings for their partner despite being cheated and want to build trust once again. So how do we do that?

Communication is the key

Undoubtedly, healthy communication is crucial in any relationship but it becomes even important after trust has been broken. Talk honestly and openly with your partner and ask him/her to do the same with you. If you start fighting in the process, don’t bring up the past and make sure what you are fighting about now never becomes a topic of fight in the future.

Be on the same page

After an incident of cheating has happened, your relationship won’t remain the same as it was earlier. Acknowledge this fact and focus on building a new relationship together. Also, trust yourself and the decisions you have made. Once you have committed to be with the same person again, do not question yourself whether you did right or wrong. Be firm and confident about your own decision.

Respect privacy

This means you show them that you trust them despite what they did. This means you do not have the right to share or stalk their social media passwords, cell phones or other personal data. Also, avoid checking on the other person constantly and making sure that they are telling the truth.

All of the above mentioned tips don’t guarantee that your partner won’t cheat on you again. You cannot control his/her decisions but you can choose whether to trust your partner again or not. Know that building trust again requires a lot of effort and time from both the partners.

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How to balance your studies and romance

Finding the right balance between studies and love life is not as easy as ABC. Failing which, either one or both of these will have to suffer

Whether you have to finish an assignment or prepare for your exams, you always need some time to spend with your special someone. Here are a few tips on how you can balance your studies and love life effectively.

Create a schedule

First and foremost thing to do is creating a schedule. You already know when your classes are and when you need to study, therefore making a weekly plan is a good idea. Mark the time and days for the same on your phone and follow it strictly. It would be even better if you inform of this plan to your partner and ask them to co-operate with you. Likewise, you can plan your outings or dates on a weekly basis well in advance.

Spend quality time

When you are with your partner, make sure you both have a good time. Enjoy each other’s company and don’t waste your time nagging and fighting about stupid stuff. Don’t worry if pressure of exams or projects has limited your romantic dates for the time being as distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Combined studies

If your partner and you are studying in same class or course, you can study while being with them at the same time. Or you can visit the library together and do your reading there. Doing so, you will get your studies done and also be with each other for a long time.

Don’t procrastinate

When you are assigned a project or assignment, avoid delaying it as it will lead to piling up of more and more work to do. Rather divide it into smaller assignments and finish them off one by one without any delay.

Limit your phone usage

We all know that phones are a huge distraction; therefore, it is better to switch off your phone while studying. Try to control your urge to call the other person every now and then.

Prioritize

It is impossible to separate your studies and partner completely. As there might be times when your partner needs your attention and so does your studies. When such a situation arises, give a listening ear to your partner, offer your emotional support and once he/she is settled down, get back to your studies. Although during exams, the approach should be changed. Inform your partner of your time table in advance and ask them to show their support by not disturbing you during your study time. Remember, these are not hard and fast rules in finding balance between academics and relationships as you can find your own way by having a healthy communication with your partner on the same topic. Whatever your way is, be firm and follow is strictly.

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