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Can Boys and Girls be “just friends”?

The age old question has a pretty simple and direct answer

Yes, they can. Because we become friends with people who share common opinions, values and tastes with us and they can be someone of the opposite gender as well. However, when you’re a teenager with crazy hormones doing their thing inside your head and body, you tend to get physically attracted to someone in more than “just friends” way. However, if you’re not physically attracted towards someone and genuinely like each other, you can be friends irrespective of the gender.

You might face some criticism and complications from others around you, but try to ignore them as much as possible. The fact is its pretty awesome to have opposite-sex friend in many cases. Have a look at these examples..

Girls are better at handling complex situations

Ritesh is really bad at planning for parties and his mom’s birthday is coming soon. He approaches his BFF Niti who helps him in planning a surprise birthday party with great ease and also helps him choose a nice gift for his mother.

Be more ‘gentle’man

Harsh has a really bad habit of using foul language and swear words. Even his family is fed up of his habit. He meets a girl Ria in his coaching and develops a friendly bond with her as they spend a lot of time studying and carpooling together. In front of her, Harsh is careful with his language, hence his language is now improving.

Finding Partners

Let’s admit it, it’s not easy to find someone suitable to date. When you have a friend of the opposite gender, he/she is always on the radar for finding out that someone special for you. And believe it, they know you inside out, so their choice of partner can be taken quiet seriously.

You can definitely add to these as possibilities are many. Share your story of how you became friends with someone of the opposite gender and how special he/she is to you and we’ll feature it with a picture of you and your BFF.

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Don’t you trust me?

Almost every parent and teen dialogue ends with this almost rhetorical question, ‘Don’t you trust me?” Sometimes garnished with tears

Teens and parents often have disagreements. They could be about a study circle with classmates, a few long phone calls with friends or a late night party with BFF. And since many of the reasons are important to teens, they often start to doubt their parents only, which is not healthy for their relationship in the long run. Let’s dig a little deeper into the issue and try to understand it.

Often reported symptoms of parents not trusting you are:

  • Asking too many questions, drilling and digging for information
  • Repeating instructions again and again
  • Almost an interrogation like discussion
  • Sneakily trying to hack into your social media profiles, phones etc.

However, you need to understand that these signs do not indicate that their parents do not trust you, rather there are many underlying reason for it which we teens are not able to see.

Make a role replacement

Look at the world from a parent perspective. In this ever changing world, parents are largely responsible for a child’s safety. With dangers right from speeding cars to untrustworthy humans lurking around every corner, their job is not at all easy.

You both want the same thing

Strangely, however both of you want the same thing: Your wellbeing. You are both trying to make the right moves so your life is better later on. Since you and your parents are both different people, you will approach the situation you unique way and that might cause some clashes.

Communication is the Key

Trust is a process, it takes a lot of time to cultivate. The first step is communicate. Next time, when the situation is not very heated up, open up a conversation with your parents about how it makes you feel, share with them how mistrusted it makes you feel. Plan this conversation well, so it does not start an argument.

Give Time

More importantly, you need to give yourself time, and if by chance, you have flouted it ever, then it is going to take a lot longer and a lot of work to build it again. So have patience, the process might be long, but will be worth it in the end, so keep your eyes on the fruit. An important principle is, be honest and truthful, it may hurt, afterall, “No gain, without pain”.

And when you feel helpless and angered by their inability to trust you, try walking a mile in your parents’ shoes, I can bet those shoes bite!

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