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It’s a great question, “Why are guys interested in some girls over others?” It may feel like you don’t know why men are deeply attracted to some girls and not to others or it feels like you keep dating guys who aren’t that interested in you. All that leads back to the main question: ‘what do men really want?’ And the reply has to go beyond just “looks” which is an important factor to boys. The real answer has to dive deeper, into what men are actually searching for in a long-term partner (and short-term too!)

Here’s a list of the 6 most important things guys look for in a girl (and note: this isn’t in a particular order).

Affection: Boys are physical human beings. Everything for them lifts up with touch. By nature, It's very warm and welcoming to a man. A lady who is thoughtful, loving, caring and when she smiles at you, gives you no choice but to smile back. A girl who radiates warmth from her heart. That is a woman a man would want to date/marry.

Intelligence: Stimulating conversations make a man attracted. Intelligent women know so much about the world around them, but even more so, have a keen interest in making it a better place. They think critically and engage the senses of the opposite sex.

Confidence: Every day is a tussle to get through and having a confident girl by your side is the key to pursue your dreams. A girl who loves herself, regardless of her own imperfections, will love a man for all of his. There's something stimulating about a confident woman, and it has nothing to do with looks.

Ambitious: Men love caretakers and planners for their families, but they also like a woman who can plan that life with them. They need a visionary, one who can see beyond today. When things get tough, she won't be so easy to give up and walk away.

Character: Being truly good-looking has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are. Boys want girls who put as much time and energy into ensuring they look good as they do into being genuine and real.

Sense of humor: It is important particularly if a man has a great sense of humor, it will be lost on a woman who is too dry or stiff. Furthermore, it could cause tension if he is often funny and jovial, and she is always serious and becomes annoyed with his lighter personality.

Typically, every boy likely to have a different ‘checklist’ for what he is looking for in the woman that he would consider for his potential partner someday, but instinctively it would be difficult to find a guy who didn’t agree with the points listed here.

The sweaty palms, racing heartbeat or even the butterflies in the stomach, they are all symptoms when we have a crush on someone.  The moment we see our crush coming towards us, or when our friends tease us or when you and your crush is sitting on the same bench, we feel a mix of all of these feelings. However, unfortunately, ‘crush’ is what it actually is as it is very easy to feel crushed emotionally if you find that s/he doesn’t return your affections. And therefore, here are we with a few useful tips for moving on and moving up to your someone special.

What is a crush?

Unlike a relationship, a crush is not a two-way street. You may feel strong affection for someone you hardly know, for reasons you don’t even understand and this is what crush is.

Signs of a solid crush

• You want to near your crush all the time, even you don’t know his/her name
• You want to know almost everything about your crush and look for clues that prove you both are made for each other
• You would change your schedules or habits to coincide with those of your crush
• You feel embarrassed when s/he pays attention to you
• You react nervously when your crush is physically close to you
• You obsess for hours about a hypothetical future with your crush

Dealing with it

This is not something easy, rather it is hard work. When you have a crush on somebody everything becomes difficult, from eating to sleeping. Also, it becomes extremely difficult to concentrate on anything, especially studies. Therefore, to ensure that your life doesn’t fall apart while you have a crush on anyone, here are few guidelines:

• Inform your friends of your crush and ask them to distract you
• Focus extra on schoolwork
• Take a hobby or anything that you were planning to do for a long time
• It’s okay t fantasize at times, but don’t let that disturb your real life

Having a crush can be both magical and pain at the same time. Just let yourself enjoy the frivolity of it without letting your feelings overtake your common sense. Never risk your safety and reputation just to get in order to get your crush’s attention. In short, ride the entire out and let it die its natural death while maintaining your sanity.