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While Dating someone or seeing someone romantically also you might get harmed (physically, sexually or emotionally). In any such situation of dating abuse you must act wisely and strongly. Dating violence or abuse is inexcusable and teenagers are more prone to it. First and foremost be strong, don’t be scared. Don’t stay quit or ignore it, rather act calmly & smartly.

In any relationship, respect and care are crucial pillars. Hence verbal or emotional abuse is unacceptable and inappropriate. And you should raise your voice against any abuse.

To Act upon something never means to become skeptical or always question relationship. Rather stay conscious and aware. As you might come up to any awkward experience on your first date or even when you are deeply in love with your partner.

Violence shows that your partner does not have self control and henceforth becomes violent. It's an uncontrolled reaction which is a result of provocation or lack of emotional control. Believe me, it’s always objectionable!

Sometimes abuse is not clearly as obvious as being hit, bulldozed or pawed. Rather your partner might be subtle while being abusive. In any such situation also it becomes really essential to be circumspect. Actually, this is psychological abuse which is also called mental or emotional abuse.

It is wise to not get indulged in such a relationship, as it might lead you lose your identity. And here are 5 signs which are easily observable in an abusive relationship.

Always Humiliating or embarrassing You

If your partner has a constant habit of naging and intentionally put you down either in private or even publically? Comparisons are never good, and if something similar is a part of your relationship then you must think about it.

Using sarcastic and unpleasant tone of voice

In any relationship tone of voice plays a crucial role. If your partner always tries to make fun of you via sarcastic comments or has an unpleasant tone while speaking with you, then you must stop ignoring it !

Domination or control

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean giving control over your life or choices. So, if your partner keeps dominating and deciding what to do, when to do, why and why not, with whom with whom not of your life, and becomes angry on not doing as instructed. Then you shall take it into account and discuss it with your partner.

Use money to control

Some people have a strong feeling that money can buy anything. And unfortunately if you face any such traits of behaviours in your relationship, then just quit it. Yes, be safe and come over such relationship. It’s extremely important to value a person more than anything else.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.

A lot of people keep blackmailing their partners. Do not get scared of such activities, first of all and secondly act smartly without being emotional. As in any such situation, you are worst affected. In most cases after threatening you, your partner would come and behave extremely sober and normal as if nothing has ever happened. This doesn’t make everything forgettable and they can harm you or your pets also.

If any of your friends or siblings are into any abusive relationship and are facing such hardship or trauma, you must never hesitate to support them to come out of such relationships. Always stay confident and stand against abuse, as it's not your fault if someone doesn't know how to respect you. You can always openly seek professional help, if it’s needed to come out of any such relationship. And no looking back must be your agenda, once you have thought to move out of your abusive relationship. Don’t compromise with your self esteem in being good to others.

Everyone must always remember that in a relationship respect and acceptance comes before love.

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Anyone who has had a relationship or more knows how tricky new relationship can be. Firstly you are a little nervous, there are plenty of butterflies in your stomach and if you have had a relationship in the past, you are scared too. In such a mix of emotions, it becomes but natural to behave in an unexpected and unwelcoming way.

So, if you have started a new relationship, here are a few do’s and don’ts that will help you survive the first crucial weeks of your relationship.

Do: Make plans in advance

There’s nothing worse than getting a text at 6 PM saying “movie tonight?” Make a plan a day or two before so that your partner knows you’re actually prioritizing the date.

Don’t: Talk about your ex constantly

Whether it’s an overabundance of compliments or an onslaught of insults, talking about an ex all the time is really irritating. Don’t be silent on the subject completely; just don’t bring it up every now and then.

Do: Make an effort with their friends

You may feel like not wanting to leave your new beau’s side for several months. But to keep things going, you’ll need to get out there and woo his/her friends too. Once they see you bonding with their friends, they would want to keep you around.

Don’t: Get too attached

Yes, you read it right, this is the modern age after all. Love comes and goes and before you know it, you’re back on Tinder. Not to be a pessimist, but it's better not to get overly attached for the initial period.

Do: Take a break from Tinder

You will have to stop going on random first dates or flirting over texts with a stranger if you’re actually starting something real. So say no to Tinder for a while.

Don’t: Send messages constantly

You might be excited to share every minute detail of your life with your new beau, but the reality is they need some time too. Wait for a few days until you find out whether they are interested in hearing everything about your day or not.

Do: Foot the bill

This goes for both the genders. Divide your bills for dates and hangouts in advance. Sure, after a few months you can go dutch on everything, but it’s fun to make that special someone feel pampered by giving them a treat.

Don’t: Play it too cool

If you’re lucky enough to find someone with whom you do enjoy spending your time with, let them know. If you like them, be bold and tell them? Honesty goes a long way in helping to move you from early dating to real relationship territory.