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My diary of Pre-Menstrual Syndrome (PMS)

Just as periods are inevitable in every girl’s life, so are PMS, also known as Pre Menstrual Syndrome. Read on to know about PMS in details and how to deal with them.

Your period is a natural part of your life and you can do anything you would do any other time of the month. If PMS is a problem for you, there are ways to manage it. PMS is a group of changes that can affect you on many levels. The changes come 1 to 2 weeks before your period. Once your period starts, they go away. It probably has to do with changes in your body chemistry around the time of your period.

First you need to need to figure out the symptoms, so let’s have a look at them:

Physical signs: Tenderness in breast, bloated tummy, stomach and headache, swollen feet, pimple, constipation, etc.

Emotional signs: Mood swings, anger outburst, depression, anxiety, difficulty in sleeping.

Behavioral signs: Forgetfulness, loss of mental focus, tired.

Now look at the other side of picture - there are lots of ways to manage PMS. Even if you can’t totally fix it, it’s nice to know you have the power to help yourself. These tips might help you:

  • Exercise about 30 minutes a day.
  • Eat healthy foods like whole grains, fruits, and vegetables.
  • Try to get enough calcium from foods (think dairy, green leafy vegetables).
  • Avoid salt, caffeine, and alcohol.
  • Don’t smoke.
  • Get plenty of sleep.
  • Work to lower stress. Track your moods and symptoms in a journal.

Try over-the-counter pain relievers like Ibuprofen. Be sure to follow the dosing instructions exactly as per the doctor’s instructions.

Talking with a mental health counselor can help you to develop new skills to overcome challenges. If you have notes about your symptoms, bring it to the doctor /therapist. Plan ahead about the questions you want to ask. That way you’ll get the best help from your doctor.

Once your period starts, there are certain hygiene measures that every girl should take. Here are a few important ones:

  • Take a shower or bath daily
  • Use clean underwear and change it every day.
  • Choose good quality sanitary pads and it is advisable to change a sanitary pad once every six hours and every two hours for a tampon, to prevent infections.
  • Do not use soaps or vaginal hygiene products to wash the genital area. Instead, use warm water. Intimate wash soaps or cleansers can kill the good bacteria making way for infections.
  • Make sure that you wash your hands with warm water and soap after changing your pad/tampon.
  • Never flush used sanitary pad and tampons down the toilet. Throw them in the dustbin to prevent the spread of infections.
  • Wear comfortable, loose clothing, rather than jeans or tight-fitting during periods. This will ensure air flow around the sensitive areas as well as prevent sweating to a large extent.

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Are sexual thoughts and fantasies normal?

Dr Rajan Bhonsle provides key insight on the how's and why's of having sexual thoughts. Read on to find out...
Nishtha JunejaTeentalkindia Content Writer

Mahesh was from a religious family, and his father was the head priest of a temple. On entering adolescence he was expected to be a good boy. He did not make eye contact with girls. His growing sexuality came in the way of his upbringing. It was because of this reason that his sexual fantasies were crazy. He would totally go berserk in his thoughts. He would imagine being in orgies. He would imagine sexual scenarios that were not usual. He masturbated on a regular basis for many years. His parents found a girl for him and it was an arranged marriage set-up. Unfortunately the problem started from the first day of marriage. His shy wife did not want to be part of his sexual fantasies. He would ask his wife to invite her sister to participate in group sex. He would also find flaws in his wife’s physical experience. Sadly, their marriage ended in three months as the wife could not keep up with Mahesh’s sexual wants.

Is something wrong with Mahesh?

According to Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist, it was Mahesh’s rigid upbringing that had resulted in this behaviour. He goes on to explain that during Mahesh’s teenage years, he supressed his sexual urges. This resulted in wild fantasies. Since after marriage, he has the chance to explore his sexual fantasies, but because they are extremely wild in nature, his wife did not understand why he insisted on doing that. After one session of counselling, Mahesh’s wife understood his thought process. Mahesh gradually let go of his wounded past and tried to maintain a healthy sexual relationship with his wife. His wife then agreed to give their marriage a second chance.

Why do young teenagers, especially boys experience sexual fantasies?

“From adolescence onwards, most people have sexual fantasies that serve a variety of functions and result in a wide range of responses within the individual. Some are pleasant or stimulating; others are confusing, embarrassing or even shocking,” says Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist.

  • During adolescence, 10-19 years, boys and girls start becoming sexually mature.
  • Apart from physical changes, lots of emotional and psychological changes start taking place.
  • This is why strong sexual feelings and thoughts start crossing the minds.
  • Unusual and unexpected sexual dreams, strong physical attraction for the opposite sex and urge to impress the opposite sex emerge, among other things.
  • These psychological and emotional changes are more body and sex oriented for boys and more romance and heart related for girls.
  • Around 12 to 16 years of age, boys will find themselves getting sexually attracted to every other woman. They also find themselves attracted to women in their twenties and thirties.

“In spite of strong sexual urges they find themselves helpless, as these elder women show little or no sexual interest in them. This frustrates adolescent boys. This provokes fantasies,” explains Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist.

This example is from Dr Rajan Bhonsle’s book titled The Complete Book of Sex Education.

If you want to understand what changes to expect once you hit puberty, you can click on the Videos tab and select Puberty. Watch the Factsheet and other videos to gain clarity. Furthermore, if you have questions about your sexuality, you can visit Videos - Sexuality and LGBTQ - Factsheet for better insight.

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