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The good side of peer pressure

Read on to discover how peer pressure became a good force for Roshni Wadhwa in college

The notion of peer pressure has more of a negative image of youngsters influencing other teenagers to behave recklessly, do drugs or skip school. Moreover, defining it in a positive manner may sound completely bizarre to many. Though, being a university student, I can vouch for the fact that positive peer pressure does exist. I remember attending my statistics lectures in my first year and absolutely hating every minute of it. We would get weekly assignments, yet, I did not feel motivated enough to complete any of them and I often felt like the dumb one in the class who couldn’t comprehend the basics.

It was affecting my enthusiasm towards other subjects too, as I would often feel extremely lazy to do any work. It also didn’t help that, many of my so called ‘friends’ weren’t very concerned about their academics, were heavily into partying, living by the concept of ‘You only live once’ and I constantly felt the need to fit in with them.

However, the best thing that could happen to me was meeting a girl who completely changed my perspective on not only studying and the preciousness of time, but also, the consequences of various choices I made that would potentially define my future. Thus, picking up my text book and being productive did not feel as boring anymore. She become my first close friend at college and was also very vocal to me about my bad decisions and laziness. At times I would feel annoyed by her persistence, but I was also inspired by her drive to perform well and do something constructive with her time.

I never felt undermined in anyway, instead it helped me regain my motivation to make a difference. We would often sit after lectures and quiz each other on the various topics covered and I looked forward to our study sessions. Along with the academic aspect, I had always been interested in joining a Zumba class, but I was never enthused enough to join it alone, thus, having a friend encouraging me and participating in it with me made the experience so much more enjoyable. I was becoming confident in my own skin and didn’t feel the need to ‘fit in’ anymore, or change myself for the acceptance of others.

By the end of it, she felt slightly shocked by her influence on me, as initially, she would call me for study sessions or yell at me to complete assignments on time. However, after a while, it became the opposite and I felt so grateful to have met a person like her who challenged me in the best way possible without ever making me feel stupid or unintelligent. It made me realize that it is almost impossible to run away from the influence of people whether that be, friends, family or society in general. The pressure to be perfect, achieve the best grades or even look a certain way has been haunting many for years. However, I have gathered that, instead of allowing the pressure to break me, associating myself with encouraging, trustworthy people and avoiding those with a negative influence can make the biggest difference.

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10 unique and inventive ways to say NO to your friends

Have you been in a situation because your friends have forced you to be in? If yes, here is a list of cool and fun ways to turn down their offer of bunking class or drinking more than you can handle.

“Hey, wanna smoke?” or “Aree, have another beer. Be a man!”  sound familiar right? Do you find it difficult to say no to your friends? Chill! You are not the only one! Here are some fun and cool ways to say NO without sounding mean or rude…

1.Play the geek card
When your gang of friends want to bunk class, but you really want to know the equations of Algebra!

2. Be a journalist!                                                                                                                                  
When your friends light a cigarette and offer you one, you can start asking them questions such as, “Why do you smoke?”, “Are you okay with your breath smelling like dead fish?” and more.

3.What are your parents for?
Sometimes, “My mom will not like if I make out with my BF at this age,” or “My father is going to kill me if I get that sort of a haircut,” work as wonderful excuses.

4.Buddy system
Make a pact with a friend who shares the same value system as you. For example, if you are a vegetarian and all your friends insist you try chicken, both you and your friend can support each other.

5. Say NO like you mean it!
Just say no with a straight face with intense eyes and a killer expression. In a situation where your friends are asking you to break into the teacher’s room and secretly steal the question paper, you have to be assertive, and just say NO.

6. Sing a NO
Not interested? Sing a no! For example, some of your friends are going for a movie and the others have invited you for a cricket game, turn down one group’s request by casually singing a song.

7. Back up the no with a positive statement
 If they offer you to smoke weed, tell your friends, “I like my brain the way it is, I have no intention to destroy more cells.”

8 .Quote a popular celebrity
 Group study Vs solo study? Here’s the answer!


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9. I am unique!

Situation: Your friends want you to have the same hairstyle as their’s.
Plonk your chin up in the air and tell them you are unique and unique people make trends, not follow them.

10. Invent other plans
Be a little imaginative and come up with alternative plans with your cousins or an imaginary friend. If you are good at dramatics, this is the time to turn on the drama!

 

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