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The notion of peer pressure has more of a negative image of youngsters influencing other teenagers to behave recklessly, do drugs or skip school. Moreover, defining it in a positive manner may sound completely bizarre to many. Though, being a university student, I can vouch for the fact that positive peer pressure does exist. I remember attending my statistics lectures in my first year and absolut.....
The notion of peer pressure has more of a negative image of youngsters influencing other teenagers to behave recklessly, do drugs or skip school. Moreover, defining it in a positive manner may sound completely bizarre to many. Though, being a university student, I can vouch for the fact that positive peer pressure does exist. I remember attending my statistics lectures in my first year and absolutely hating every minute of it. We would get weekly assignments, yet, I did not feel motivated enough to complete any of them and I often felt like the dumb one in the class who couldn’t comprehend the basics.
It was affecting my enthusiasm towards other subjects too, as I would often feel extremely lazy to do any work. It also didn’t help that, many of my so called ‘friends’ weren’t very concerned about their academics, were heavily into partying, living by the concept of ‘You only live once’ and I constantly felt the need to fit in with them.
However, the best thing that could happen to me was meeting a girl who completely changed my perspective on not only studying and the preciousness of time, but also, the consequences of various choices I made that would potentially define my future. Thus, picking up my text book and being productive did not feel as boring anymore. She become my first close friend at college and was also very vocal to me about my bad decisions and laziness. At times I would feel annoyed by her persistence, but I was also inspired by her drive to perform well and do something constructive with her time.
I never felt undermined in anyway, instead it helped me regain my motivation to make a difference. We would often sit after lectures and quiz each other on the various topics covered and I looked forward to our study sessions. Along with the academic aspect, I had always been interested in joining a Zumba class, but I was never enthused enough to join it alone, thus, having a friend encouraging me and participating in it with me made the experience so much more enjoyable. I was becoming confident in my own skin and didn’t feel the need to ‘fit in’ anymore, or change myself for the acceptance of others.
By the end of it, she felt slightly shocked by her influence on me, as initially, she would call me for study sessions or yell at me to complete assignments on time. However, after a while, it became the opposite and I felt so grateful to have met a person like her who challenged me in the best way possible without ever making me feel stupid or unintelligent. It made me realize that it is almost impossible to run away from the influence of people whether that be, friends, family or society in general. The pressure to be perfect, achieve the best grades or even look a certain way has been haunting many for years. However, I have gathered that, instead of allowing the pressure to break me, associating myself with encouraging, trustworthy people and avoiding those with a negative influence can make the biggest difference.
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