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Why emotional intelligence matters more than IQ?

The belief that high IQ leads to success has faded away. And with that has arisen a new combination of success, which is IQ+EQ

Can you often recognize the emotions that you feel? Can you manage your feelings without getting influenced by them? Can you motivate yourself? If you answered "yes" to these questions then you have developed some skills that form the basis of emotional intelligence.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence or EI is the ability to perceive, process and regulate emotional information accurately and effectively, within oneself and in others as well. On the other hand, IQ, or intelligence quotient, is merely a number derived from a standardized intelligence test. These standard measures of intelligence, i.e.IQ scores, are too narrow and do not encompass a full range of human intelligence.

You might have seen various outstanding students who do extremely well in academics, struggling afterward in their life, and many not-so-smart students going a really long way in their profession. This is because Emotional Intelligence has a bigger role in shaping our lives than IQ.

IQ represents abilities such as:

  • Visual and spatial processing
  • Knowledge of the world
  • Fluid reasoning
  • Working memory and short-term memory
  • Quantitative reasoning

EQ is cantered on abilities such as:

  • Identifying emotions
  • Evaluating how others feel
  • Controlling one's own emotions
  • Perceiving how others feel
  • Using emotions to facilitate social communication
  • Relating to others

Therefore, unlike IQ, Emotional Intelligence is a dynamic aspect of one’s intellect and includes behavioral traits that, when worked upon, can reap significant benefits, from personal happiness and well-being to success in a professional context. Here are a few ways to improve your EQ level:

  • Utilize an assertive style of communication
  • Respond instead of reacting to conflict
  • Utilize active listening skills
  • Be motivated
  • Practice ways to maintain a positive attitude
  • Practice self-awareness
  • Take criticism positively
  • Empathize with others
  • Utilize leadership skills
  • Be approachable and sociable

Anyone can develop their EQ at any point in life. People who are naturally more empathetic can develop these skills more easily. Others just have to practice being more self-aware and conscious of how they interact with others.

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Why being Adaptable is important?

Do you begin each day with the mindset that you are prepared to handle whatever might happen? Or does the prospect of experiencing unexpected events or leave you feeling anxious?
Ritika SrivastavaTeentalkindia Counsellor

The personality trait of adaptability helps determine how you respond to change. People who are highly adaptable are often described as "flexible, or as someone who goes with the flow’. While we may or may not naturally be prone to being adaptable, we can consciously decide to be flexible in our ideas and expectations. Over time, this changes our attitude which will naturally lead us to become better at adjusting to the circumstances we'll all inevitably face.



There are many plus points in being adaptable. If you're feeling the need to become more adaptable or have been told you need to be more flexible, realize that these benefits are well within your scope, but they may take a little practice. It means being a perpetual optimist and displaying extraordinary resilience. Adaptability talent can be possessed both in both attitude and action, and one can’t exist without the other. Learn how you can adapt to become better with these tips:


  1. Someone who is adaptable is exposed to new ideas, and doesn't need to do things just because "that's how they've always been done." They're able to expect changes and don't fear when things don't go according to plan.


  1. People who are adaptable excel as front-runners. They earn the respect of their peers and inspire those around them to embrace change. People are more likely to trust in you when the going gets strong. They realize how good you are at get used to new situations. Nobody cares about the person who does nothing but panic all the time. 


  1. Imagine you got bad grades due to a decline in study performance or some other reason. What's your first move? Do you give up, or do you think about how you can reposition yourself? Being adaptable can mean less time in worrying over your mistakes, and less stress as you tackle challenges at study.


  1. Teentalkinidia experts believe that being adaptable has many benefits, one of the most important of which is increased happiness: We constantly meet psychological threats. Some of us succumb, we feel hopeless, disempowered and some meet challenges, take the knock and learn something from it. Our ability to have life satisfaction and to have good relationships really depends on our ability to adapt.


  1. Bad things happen to all of us but if you take adversity in stride, never letting it destroy you; then you adjust your thoughts and expectations to suit your new reality. Rather than dwelling on "what could have been’. Being adaptable is similar to being resilient.


  1. Deriving positives from situations or projects that don’t go as planned can be hard, particularly if the loss was big, or a significant deadline is lost. However, being able to find the silver lining in everything you do is a brilliant example of adaptability skills in action, as it involves you to reset and reframe your focus, often taking a step back and viewing things less judgmentally and more objectively. If you find it difficult to identify the positives, start by noting down what you learn when things don’t go as scheduled, factoring this exercise in as a crucial part of your evaluation strategy.


A famous Chinese proverb says, "The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water molds itself to the pitcher." Being adaptable means you alter yourself to accommodate your circumstances.  This means less time trying to modify your circumstances, which may or may not work, and more time regulating your own attitude and expectations. This is a lifelong process, and the sooner you start trying to turn your life around, the better. Keep receiving change, and don’t see the destruction of the status quo as a bad thing. It may seem simple to alter your state of mind in this way, but you have to be bold, brave and courageous.


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