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Unsocial Teens on Social Media

Teenagers are spending a significant amount of time on various social media platforms these days. This brings into account the different mental heath concerns which emerge from the use and overuse of the same.

Social media has its advantages and disadvantages like any other factor which stands a chance to affect a teen’s mind and brain. A lot happens on social media now and access to teens is wide and almost unmonitored. When we look at social media, we don’t realize how deeply it can impact someone. Today, a major source of validation, affirmation, acknowledgment, appreciation, recognition, self-esteem, body image, self-worth and likewise are affected by what we see and experience in the digital world.

Some examples of health concerns which can be a cause of concern for teens attributable to social media consumption are as follows but not limited to:

  1. Sleep deprivation – Teens may spend many hours on social media leading to lack of sleep or quality of sleep. For instance, teens are found to wake up in the middle of the night to check their phones/social media accounts which then may cause difficult falling back to sleep. This can cause moodiness, lower grades, overeating, and other health concerns.

  2. Envy – One of the major emotions, teens can be susceptible to feelings of jealousy and envy based on the comparison game they play with themselves. They view what others post and anticipate that others are ‘happier’ and having an ‘exciting’ life while they are not. Social media often presents the positive experiences of people which hide the struggles or negative ones. Teens don’t realize the existence of these struggles and become envious of their lives and what others have. This can lead to mean behavior like bullying, cyberbullying and likewise.

  3. Communication Issues – All the time spent on social media leads to neglect of interactions in real. We can’t hear the other person’s voce or see their facial expressions while chatting with them on social media which could spiral into misunderstandings and communication concerns. Another side to this is that even at real events, people may spend time clicking photos for social media to depict a sense of excitement and fun while not actually having fun. These can all turmoil into broken relationships, friendships, familial concerns and likewise.

  4. Self – Esteem – People often post pictures, status messages, videos, etc on social mediaand stay hooked to monitoring how many ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ they are receiving. Each ‘like’ may have a certain amount of validation attached to it. The more ‘likes’ the higher the feeling of pride and self-worth. However, when this doesn’t work, this could lead to self-doubt, anxiety about being ‘disliked’ or even obsessing about uploading more things to earn more validation.

There are several others ways in which social media affects teens in different forms. Teen brains are still in the process of developing and hence more vulnerable. As they gain more exposure to the digital world, they also find themselves at risk for internal and external mental health concerns. However, not all consumption of social media has a negative impact. For instance, social media now also helps teens promote their talents, talk about charity and serving their communities, sharing affirmations and positive quotations, reading about others’ experiences about travel, academics, hobbies, researching about different topics, finding support for different concerns, and so much more.

Anything in moderation is effective while anything that is overused or obsessed over can lose its meaning and cause more harm than good. It’s important to set a particular amount of time aside during the day to access social media and adhere to it. Go out, talk to your friends, see their actual faces, play board games, interact with your family members, say hello to a stranger, go on actual dates, attend events in your city, and most importantly, spend some ‘no screen’ time with yourself.

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Why being Adaptable is important?

Do you begin each day with the mindset that you are prepared to handle whatever might happen? Or does the prospect of experiencing unexpected events or leave you feeling anxious?
Ritika SrivastavaTeentalkindia Counsellor

The personality trait of adaptability helps determine how you respond to change. People who are highly adaptable are often described as "flexible, or as someone who goes with the flow’. While we may or may not naturally be prone to being adaptable, we can consciously decide to be flexible in our ideas and expectations. Over time, this changes our attitude which will naturally lead us to become better at adjusting to the circumstances we'll all inevitably face.



There are many plus points in being adaptable. If you're feeling the need to become more adaptable or have been told you need to be more flexible, realize that these benefits are well within your scope, but they may take a little practice. It means being a perpetual optimist and displaying extraordinary resilience. Adaptability talent can be possessed both in both attitude and action, and one can’t exist without the other. Learn how you can adapt to become better with these tips:


  1. Someone who is adaptable is exposed to new ideas, and doesn't need to do things just because "that's how they've always been done." They're able to expect changes and don't fear when things don't go according to plan.


  1. People who are adaptable excel as front-runners. They earn the respect of their peers and inspire those around them to embrace change. People are more likely to trust in you when the going gets strong. They realize how good you are at get used to new situations. Nobody cares about the person who does nothing but panic all the time. 


  1. Imagine you got bad grades due to a decline in study performance or some other reason. What's your first move? Do you give up, or do you think about how you can reposition yourself? Being adaptable can mean less time in worrying over your mistakes, and less stress as you tackle challenges at study.


  1. Teentalkinidia experts believe that being adaptable has many benefits, one of the most important of which is increased happiness: We constantly meet psychological threats. Some of us succumb, we feel hopeless, disempowered and some meet challenges, take the knock and learn something from it. Our ability to have life satisfaction and to have good relationships really depends on our ability to adapt.


  1. Bad things happen to all of us but if you take adversity in stride, never letting it destroy you; then you adjust your thoughts and expectations to suit your new reality. Rather than dwelling on "what could have been’. Being adaptable is similar to being resilient.


  1. Deriving positives from situations or projects that don’t go as planned can be hard, particularly if the loss was big, or a significant deadline is lost. However, being able to find the silver lining in everything you do is a brilliant example of adaptability skills in action, as it involves you to reset and reframe your focus, often taking a step back and viewing things less judgmentally and more objectively. If you find it difficult to identify the positives, start by noting down what you learn when things don’t go as scheduled, factoring this exercise in as a crucial part of your evaluation strategy.


A famous Chinese proverb says, "The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water molds itself to the pitcher." Being adaptable means you alter yourself to accommodate your circumstances.  This means less time trying to modify your circumstances, which may or may not work, and more time regulating your own attitude and expectations. This is a lifelong process, and the sooner you start trying to turn your life around, the better. Keep receiving change, and don’t see the destruction of the status quo as a bad thing. It may seem simple to alter your state of mind in this way, but you have to be bold, brave and courageous.


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