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Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who Is Feeling Anxious

we wanted you to take note of the things that you shouldn’t say to a person who is suffering from anxiety.

According to a study, 1 in 7 Indians are suffering from depression and anxiety. So there is a chance that you know someone who has anxiety. The chances are that you want to help and support that person as that can be your friend, family, colleague or neighbour. You all know many things that you can say or do for them when they are having anxiety attacks or going through a difficult situation.

But here we wanted you to take note of the things that you shouldn’t say to a person who is suffering from anxiety. The sentences are as follows -

  • It’s okay, calm down.

When we say calm down to someone experiencing anxiety, they are not always helpful. If they can, they would have done that. Ideal thing to say here is “I am listening to you”

  • It’s all in your head. There is nothing to worry about.

If you say this sentence to a person who is having anxiety then it is very wrong. There are things for them to be worried about and so this response in wrong. Those things might not be equally important for you but it is for them. Just listen to their problem and try to connect them with physical environment. You can go for a walk with them.

  • I have got problems too.

Every individual are different than each other and so their emotions. We all cope in a different way to each situation. A problem for me might not be a problem for you and vice versa. That is why this sentence is not right.

  • This is not a big deal as you are making it.

When someone is anxious about things, most of the time they know that those things are irrational but still they are troubling them. This is big deal for them. Try to validate their feeling rather than disregarding them.

  • Why you can’t think positively. 

People don’t choose to be anxious. It’s like any other physical illness. Telling someone to think positively in this situation is insensitive. It will be helpful if you can support your friend even if you don’t understand what he/she is going through. They will be able to see hope when they see that people are there for them.

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How To Stop Obsessive Thinking

If you’re someone who is having negative thoughts or sleep disturbances due to overthinking, then you can follow the tips mentioned below to overcome this situation
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Are you someone who keeps thinking about negative things?
Do you feel your brain just holds on to the negative experiences?
Do you feel like a prisoner in your own mind?
If you have answered all above statements with “YES” then this article is for you.

Obsessive thinking is an inability to gain control over recurrent, distressing thoughts and images. Brain imaging studies indicate that obsessive thinking is associated with a neurological dysfunction of unknown cause that forces thoughts into repetitive loops. While some people find themselves obsessing for the first time, others may have had multiple episodes, the specific content changing over time.

Here are 5 tips for you to follow so that you feel less anxious –

1. Increase Awareness –
The first step is to becoming conscious of your behaviour or thinking when it arises. The next time when you catch yourself in this loop, just ask yourself to “STOP” (say it loud)

2. Name it –
When we caught in the circle of negative thinking, we have certain underlying fears. Try to jot down the negative thoughts and the reasons behind it. The moment you do that, you will gain control over your emotions.

3. Practice Mindfulness –
Mindulfulness exercise or meditation helps our mind to calm down and focus on our present situation. You can also get to know more about meditation and how to start meditation for beginners from this link -

4. Acceptance –
Take a moment and think about the source of your anxiety. What are the emotions that you are feeling. Allow yourself to feel that without any guilt feeling. Accept the way you feel. Ask yourself if you can change what happened in your past? If your answer is no, then do your best to accept what is. Take a breath and do something that brings you joy. If the answer is yes, identify what you can do and do it.

5. Schedule a worry break –
Be compassionate with yourself and remember you don’t have to do it all at once—don’t feel like you’ve failed if you have a fearful or anxious thought. When you feel lot of negative thoughts just allow yourself a 15-20 minutes break in a day where you sit and jot down all the things that you are worried about. It will help you have healthy

If you still can’t control your negative thoughts then going for a therapy and taking professional advice is always helpful.


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