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What are emotions?
They are strong feelings that occur because of a variety of reasons. You might feel joy when you meet a friend or you might feel embarrassment when you slipped on a banana peel. Feelings are transient, which means that they come and go.
Acknowledge them, and let go.
Thoughts produce feelings, and we feel emotions.
For the sake of simplicity, let’s broadly categorise emotions into two categories: good emotions and bad emotions. Simply put, the good emotions will make you feel happy and your body will be relaxed. On the contrary, bad emotions will not make you feel happy and your body will be tensed.
Some examples of good emotions are joy, satisfaction, gratitude, hope and joy.
Anything that evokes a feeling of being happy can be called a good emotion. Some examples of bad emotions are jealousy, blame, anger, attachment and regret. Similarly, anything that evokes unhappy feelings can be called bad emotions. Here we aim to look at the above mentioned bad emotions that are labelled under the bad category, and Teentalk India Expert Kshitija Sawant gives solutions to deal with them.
Jealousy: It is also called the green-eyed monster. It is not appreciating what you have, and focusing on what you do not have. For example, your friend owning the latest model of IPhone. You might also aspire to have it, but feeling jealous because of a material possession is not worth it.
Blame: Everyone goes through unpleasant times in their life. Somebody might have treated you badly or you were unjustly being accused of something you haven’t done. After a point, we have to learn to take the responsibility for our actions. Blaming your parents, teachers, cousins or friends will stunt your growth. Take responsibility and move forward.
Anger: This is a strong emotion that can emerge due to a variety of reasons. However, it is important to question why something made you angry in the first place. Being angry at someone or a situation is okay, but screaming, hitting the other person or furniture and abusing is not considered acceptable.
Attachment: While being attached to some people like your family and friends or material possessions with high sentimental value is alright, keeping most people and things in your life just for the sake of it will leave you stuck. Discard the old, because only then you will make the space for the new to enter your life.
Regret: One of the reasons why we feel regret is because some event did not go as per our plans. You might have said something mean to a loved one that you did not mean to or you ended up getting caught cheating in exams and paid a heavy price for doing so; can bring feelings of regret to the surface.
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Do you get a jittery feeling when you have to give a speech in front of a house-full of people, especially your classmates? Does it make you feel nervous? Does it make you feel like you will not be able to deliver the talk?
What is social phobia?
This feeling of consistently feeling nervous and anxious in social situations may be a social phobia. This can happen during the lead-up or during the event. Those who have social phobia will find it immensely difficult to face the situations they feel uncomfortable in. This can lead to immense anxiety.
How to figure out if you have social phobia?
If you get extreme anxiety while doing these situations over a period of time:
What are the symptoms?
5 tips to deal with social phobia by Teentalk Expert Kshitija Sawant
1.Positive Self-talk is extremely effective. Every day, say a few affirmations to yourself atleast a few times before you go to bed and when you wake up the first thing in the morning. For example, you could say to yourself, “Day by day, I am getting better and better,” or “ I will do this, I can do this, I am strong.” Try doing this regularly and with the passage of time, things will surely start getting better.
2.Strike a power pose (that is stand like a superhero). According to Harvard psychologist, Amy Cuddy, even if you take out 2 minutes of your time to strike a power pose or stand like a superhero in a private space such as your bedroom or the back area of a stage before you deliver a performance, it will help you to feel good about yourself.
3.Focus on doing your best, not ‘log kya kahenge’ (or what will people think of me)
4.Practice before you go up on stage or before you attend any networking event. You could rehearse all that you want to say in front of a trusted friend, a family member or in front of the mirror. The more you practice, the better you will get.
5.“What is the worst thing that can happen scenario?” For those who fear social interactions, here’s what you can do: try speaking to at least 3 unknown people at an event. Some may show interest, some might not show any interest. There is no need to fear rejection, because the worst thing that can happen is that someone will say ‘no’ and you will be back to where you were before attending the event. It can’t get worse than that! Remember, you tried your best and put in all the effort, good for you!
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