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As a child Tanvi had a different childhood as she had a Muslim father and Jain mother. However, she was unaffected by this, which is why, when she was five and one of her friend’s mother asked her about whom does she loves the most, Tanvi’s reply was ‘Myself’. But as she progressed towards tee.....
As a child Tanvi had a different childhood as she had a Muslim father and Jain mother. However, she was unaffected by this, which is why, when she was five and one of her friend’s mother asked her about whom does she loves the most, Tanvi’s reply was ‘Myself’. But as she progressed towards teenage, she started to see things differently. She was, now, questioning her physical looks and self-worth more often. While she was still trying to figure this out, an incident shook her.
It happened in 9th grade, when she was getting ready for a party with her friends. Excited and happy, they were all trying different outfits and looks. Suddenly one of her friends said that ‘everything about Tanvi was perfect, except for her skin tone!’ Yes, she was a dark skinned girl, or not fair enough, as they say.
Tanvi was hurt as this mere sentence broke her heart badly. This killed her confidence and Tanvi became conscious of her skin colour. She started refraining from anything that would bring her to limelight as she thought she wasn’t good enough. Not only this, but she even avoided any social interactions and stayed away from people whom she thought would hurt her.
Her mother, who after watching Tanvi see fairness cream ads told her that she doesn’t need to be of a particular skin colour to be successful, tried to rebuild her confidence. She recommended Tanvi to join martial arts, hence diverting all her negative energy into physical energy. Tanvi practised everyday and each day gave her the opportunity to express herself as something more than just a dark skinned girl. Gradually her focus shifted toward this and she became capable of fighting back and re-established her confidence.
Her friends and family also helped her emotionally. They believed in her and showed their confidence in her. This made Tanvi grow even strong and confident. She couldn’t thank enough for having such co-operative and understanding people around her.
Finally, Tanvi made peace with herself and her skin colour. Today, she is an inspiring fashion blogger and a black belt Martial arts expert who has been winning tournaments internationally since a very young age.
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