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Acne prevented me from performing my best in exams!

A 20-something recounts his school days when acne on his face affected his self-esteem. Read on!

I was always the happy types. Approaching people and making plans with them to go for movies or playing cricket. Small pimples on my face weren’t a big deal for me. Little did I know that they were a serious deal for the people around me!

Some of my friends started making fun of the rapidly increasing acne on my face. They would call the red boils “tomatoes.” In grade 8, I had a fight with a senior from my school. He threatened to punch me on my face and burst all the pimples on it. That was a great blow to my self-esteem. Some other boys would call it feminine to have many pimples on my face. As I entered grade 9, I thought the situation would improve. I was soo wrong!

In our school, there is a custom for all 9th graders to organise a party for 10th graders to celebrate the success of their board exams. I was part of the prize distribution team. We were supposed to pair up with a person from the opposite sex. I started approaching some of my female friends. And to my surprise, all of them said a blatant “no.” Initially I could not understand the reason. Why wouldn’t anybody not want to be seen with me?

I started blaming myself. First, I thought that there is something wrong in the way I am talking to girls. But soon realised that was not the case. Then I thought maybe I should try to act aloof. That will get attention from girls. After a couple of days of trying this tactic, I realised it has backfired. The girls who used to talk to me, now do not even bother to look at me. It was only after this that I realised that it must be the growing acne on my face that could repel others. The date of the final event was approaching and I still did not have a partner. I felt worthless and helpless. Finally, the teacher asked one of the girls to stand with me during the event, which was the final blow to my self-esteem. Why? The reason being that I could see the utter disgust on her face while standing with me. Her body language said that she didn’t want to be seen with me.

After this incident, I started spending time alone. I did not feel like making conversation with anyone, not even some of my close male friends. I stopped posing for pictures since I was extremely sceptical about the way I looked. Furthermore, I lost all interest in talking with girls. I lost the few female friends I had. I experienced a phase of loneliness and sadness. Thoughts about my appearance such as “I am ugly”, “I will never have a girlfriend” and “I am a loser” spun inside my head on loop. Soon, my focus towards academics started dwindling. Scoring low marks further decreased my self-confidence. I realised I need to find a solution. First, I tried to burst the pimples. This method proved to be a disaster as more of the same popped up. Left with no other option, I told my mother of the embarrassment I was facing in school and how acne has affected my life.

She emphathised with me and offered to take me to the doctor. He prescribed creams for a month. I started taking treatment for it. Though it took almost six months for the acne to clear off, it was an extremely difficult phase for me. But I am glad it is over. For anyone who is facing acne-related issues, it is always a good option to take treatment and accept the way you look. If you cannot accept yourself, you also cannot expect others to accept you in entirety.

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Do you talk to yourselves? How does the conversation flow? Self-talk is integral to one’s self-esteem. Here are some positive statements you can say to yourself every day early in the morning or before going to sleep.

  1. They say opportunities do not knock on the door twice. It is important to recognise these blessings and grab them.


     
  2. Isn’t love a wonderful feeling? By telling yourself that love, peace and light exists within you, you will instantly feel better.


     
  3. Take a day and focus on what you want from life. Understand if you are taking care of your health, personal relationships and academics.


     
  4. Be proud of where you are in life. Pat your back for clearing exams and moving into the next class.


     
  5. Accept the way you look. Take all the imperfections in your appearance and try to love yourself for the way you are.


     
  6. By stating that you feel confident and powerful, you are releasing a positive vibe in the Universe. You will attract more of it.



     
  7. You have the ability to change the negative thoughts into positive ones. Use this power and control your mind.

     
  8. Never limit yourself or compare yourself with anyone. You define your own goals. Believe that you can achieve them.


     
  9. By acknowledging your strengths you realise that you are unique. You can use these to your advantage.


     
  10.  Wherever you are in your life, take a minute and appreciate yourself for your achievements. Do not think if they are big or small. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you were behind achieving them.

     

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