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Tips to Cope with Unhealthy Masturbation

As we all begin to explore our bodies and sexual urges, we begin with our own bodies and desires before moving forward and experiencing it with other people. Masturbation can be a healthy activity until it becomes a problem and hampers your daily functioning. Finding that thin line between healthy and unhealthy is key to a safer and better sexual life.

Adolescence is a very crucial phase experienced by human beings. This phase brings multiple changes including physical, sexual, emotional, mental, interpersonal, social, etc. during this phase, it is natural for adolescents to explore their sexuality and sexual urges before progressing to adult sexual relationships. Masturbation is one way of exploring their bodies and sexuality. It is a healthy and natural phenomenon which intrigues them.

Masturbation is just a process of self-stimulation and sexual pleasure. When done in moderation, it is healthy. However, it may become a concern when the frequency rises or the act of doing it is inappropriate. There is no number to determine how frequent is ‘too much’. If the process starts hampering your routine, like school, work, relationships, personal progress, etc then it might be a cause for concern.

Adolescents often might resort to masturbation in order to supress their emotional or psychological pain or distress. Emotional pain can be caused due to multiple experiences, some of which may include childhood abuse or trauma. These may result in feelings of anger, rage, despair, helplessness, betrayal, guilt and likewise when often remain hidden. When external facilitation of these emotions is unavailable, adolescents may turn to self-medication in the form of behavioural addictions like masturbation and/or substances.

Masturbation can be addictive because it instantly relieves tension, is easily accessible, costs almost no money, it is mostly a self-reliant activity, and ultimately it’s pleasurable. It helps them escape their feelings and thoughts and temporarily focus on something enjoyable.

Masturbation increases the release of dopamine In the brain, the chemical which makes you feel sexual pleasure. Endorphins are hormones which are released after you are done masturbating which also help relieve stress. Eventually, the brain will demand higher release of dopamine and endorphins as they provide pleasure which is achieved by increasing the frequency of masturbation, hence leading to addiction.

Like any addiction, masturbation can also be managed by firstly recognizing and accepting that this is a concern for you. Once you’re able to identify it, change can be initiated.

Having said that, here are some ways of beginning your journey of healing from unhealthy behavior and turn to a healthier lifestyle.

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  1. Avoid pornography – Initially, this may be hard to resist but remember, you’re doing this for your well-being. Some relapses are okay.

  2. Pick a hobby – Make a list of activities you can indulge in whenever you feel the urge to self-stimulate. Resort to either of them and divert your mind towards healthier and fascinating things to do.

  3. Avoid solitude – being alone may trigger urges. Try to be outside, around family, friends, community members, or any environment which can help you avoid succumbing to your temptations.

  4. Reflect – Sit back and think about which area of your life is feeling stressed. It could be unmet needs personally, professionally, academically, financially, sexually, socially, emotionally, physically, or anything which can cause distress for you.

  5. Start Small – Instead of trying to ‘cure’ masturbation itself, try to take it one day at a time. If you currently masturbate everyday, try cutting it down by one day each week. For example, “This week, I will take a day off on Tuesday.”. Replace this activity with another like meeting a friend, visiting a park or taking a walk.

  6. Reward Yourself – If you managed to take that day off, give yourself anything you may have been wanting for a while. Treat yourself, praise yourself, appreciate your own motivation and dedication to feel better. You deserve it.

Remember, addiction cannot be cured overnight. It is a gradual process of persistent work. Having said that, having days when you give in to your urges does not make you weak or a failure. Even if you manage to move one step forward, that is progress. Stay focused, stay strong, stay positive!

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The truth about pornography

You might think that pornography is harmless, read on to find out how it affects your perspective towards sex and relationships

Have you ever wondered why porn is often viewed in secret? Why does every discussion about pornography conveyed in hushed whispers. Let’s try to understand the psychology of porn:

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Many teenagers discover porn during adolescence. It is exciting and new. Many teens use it as a stimulant to masturbate. This can become addictive. Slowly, teens make excuses to avoid social gatherings or homework to watch porn videos. It starts to take over their lives.

According to Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist, these are the four stages of pornography:

1.Addiction: When a teen is addicted to watching porn videos every day and finds ways to watch porn on a regular basis.

2.Escalation: Over time, addicts require more explicit material to meet their sexual needs.

3.Desensitisation: What was first perceived as gross, shocking and disturbing, in time becomes common and acceptable.

4. Acting out sexually: There is an increasing tendency to act out behaviours viewed in pornography.

However, this can pose a serious concern in the later stages of their lives. There might be a possibility when teens would want to imitate porn stars. Sex in an intimate romantic relationship or marriage is not like a porn movie.

“Research has shown that pornography and its messages are involved in shaping attitudes and encouraging behaviour that can harm individuals and their families. In addition, pornography promotes the allure of adultery, prostitution and unreal expectations that can result in dangerous promiscuous behaviour,” according to Rajan Bhonsle.

Tips on getting rid of the addiction of watching porn videos by Teentalk India Expert Kshitija Sawant:

1.Sex Education is essential. Whenever, you get the opportunity to attend courses, programs or seminars on sex education, please do so as it will give you some realistic, insights on the concept of sex and reproduction.

2. Knowledge is Power: Once you have the required knowledge, you will come to realize that sex is appropriate in what kind of situations and inappropriate in certain other situations. It is not something that is ‘dirty’ but instead something that needs to be accepted as a way of living life.

3. Additional recreation is a must: As a teenager, it is important for you to channelize your energies by taking up a sport or a favourite past time activity like creative writing, dancing, painting to name a few.

4. Everyone time you find yourself feeling the urge to watch porn, relax, take a few deep breaths and meditate. This will help you to calm down and appreciate what nature has to offer you.

 

 

 

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