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5 mindset upgrades that India needs for the sake of its teens

We as Indian's are blessed with a rich heritage of culture and traditions but sometimes that makes us victim's of our fixed mindset. Here are 5 fixed mindsets that we need to upgrade now...

Walking through the by lanes of teenage is not any short of walking through a battleground. There are dangers lurking around at every nook and corner of puberty and teenage. Plus, most of the teenage issues are made more difficult than they actually are by one common culprit – a fixed mindset.

Especially in a country like India, we are constantly weighed down by the patriarchal fixed mindsets that our society just refuses to let go. Some of these mindsets are so deep rooted into our society and sometimes even in our family that they jeopardise our future.   

Let’s take a look at 5 fixed mindsets that India needs to dump now...

  1. Mindset: Marks = Intelligence

In India we have this fixed mindset where we believe that the marks scored are a measurement of a student’s intelligence. Truth is that the current Indian education system is largely driven by rote learning ie: memorizing technique based on repetition.

However, a student’s true aptitude depends on the kind of intelligence they have. To know more about which kind of intelligent you are, read this story.

  1. Mindset: Sharmaji ka beta is the competition 

Another fixed mindset that our country is a victim of is – we constantly compare our teens to that overachiever a.k.a Sharmaji ka beta we all seem to have in our life.

Read more on this fixed mindset, in our story on Sharmaji ka beta.

  1. Mindset: Doctors and Engineers are the only credible career options

There is this obsession in our society about kids who become doctors and engineers. In most, if not all (let’s not generalise) Indian homes; the merit of a child is judged based on their capability to become either of the above.

If a student has career aspirations that are not conventional, the child is discouraged and outcast. 3 idiots the movie; dealt with this fixed mindset beautifully; read our story on 3 Idiots here.

  1. Mindset: We are like this only, so we can't change

Another fixed mindset that we Indians are a victim of is that we are so stuck to our traditions that we are not willing to change for the betterment of our own.

Not moving ahead with time and sticking to a conservative approach to life further widens the generation gap and that does no good to anyone. This is where we can use the growth mindset and learn to evolve with time while also staying rooted.

To accommodate parental expectation a student should not have to make his/her personal goals suffer.

According to our in-house Counsellor, Kshitija Sawant, “It is important for us to question the existing practices intermittently and to evaluate how effective they actually are. We also need to remember that many practices were never meant to benefit everyone living in the society. So, if being traditional helps you to grow, that’s fine, but if being traditional is getting in the way of your growth, then it’s time to change.”
  1. Mindset: Either you are born intelligent or you're average or dumb!

Another Indian mindset that needs to change is the labels that we love to tag people with. A student is either average, or intelligent or just dumb –

And this is decided based on an education system that only tests our memory!

A student’s performance in academics is not a measure of his/her intelligence. Not only are we all intelligent in different ways; but we are also  capable of doing our best.

A lot of social, emotional and mental health factors can influence our intelligence and performance. So we must learn to steer clear of labels. According to our in-house Counsellor, Kshitija Sawant, “It is ridiculous to make comparisons between people having different kinds of intelligence and assume that just because one person is good at academics, he/she is smart, while even if the other one is outstanding at sports, he/she is average or dumb. Making such comparisons is unfair, since each and every person serves a different purpose in society.

If you have any career related query, you can reach out to Teentalk. Leave a comment below or get in touch with the counselor at expert@teentalkindia.com

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These 5 habits will help you score better in exams

William James, American philosopher and psychologist, claimed that it takes 21 days to form a habit. Believe it or not, all successful people imbibed these in their daily routine. Check them out!

William James, American philosopher and psychologist, claimed that it takes 21 days to form a habit. As exams are looming closer, making some beneficial adjustments to your daily routine will help you score better marks in exams. Also, Teentalk India Expert Kshitija Sawant tells us why these habits will help you in the long-run as well.

1. Wake up early: “Oh no! I want to sleep till late.” We understand, as students, you might want to tuck in your bed the entire day without moving a leg. But, who says you cannot do that, only limit it to the weekends. On the weekdays, set a time and wake up early. Bask in the sandy rays of the early morning sun, an important source of Vitamin D.

Kshitija explains why: When you wake up early, you tend to feel positive, motivated and get a lot of work done during the day apart from eating a healthy morning breakfast! In short, those who wake up early in the morning are excellent time managers!!!

Set a time to wake up
 

2. Study the most dreaded subject first: “How I hate Mathematics!” Congratulations, now you know what to study first. No matter how much you crib, you will have to give exams. Just accept this, and focus.

Kshitija explains why: Typically, when you’re awake in the morning, you’re energy levels tend to be very high. That means, you’re better off using that time to study or work on subjects that you find difficult or complicated.

Study the toughest subject first

3. Earn your break: Half an hour into studying the movement of the Indian Independence and your mind wanders to the things you will do in your break time. If you really study, the break will be more satisfying. Isn’t it different to have chilled water after an exciting football match?

Kshitija explains why: Taking a break, will help you to relax and be more efficient, productive and feel fresh, especially when you start studying again. Your ability to remember the content you have worked on will also be very good. However, when you take breaks, make sure you utilize that time well and engage in an activity that requires you to move around physically, for example, taking a walk in the park, exercising or just stretching a little bit. Stay away from the internet, social media, video games and make sure, the break time is not as long as the duration of the study time. For example, if you’ve been studying for the past 1 hour, then it is alright to take a break for 10-15minutes. It is not alright to take a break for 1 hour, if you’ve only for studied an hour prior.

Only take a break when you have finished a chunk of study material
 

4. Meditate: “It is boring,” is the classic response when someone mentions meditating. However, nearly everyone who achieved success calm their mind. It helps build focus. Meditating is a great way to understand our true goals, desires and feelings.

Kshitija explains why: When we meditate, we become self-aware, which in turn enables us to understand our strengths and weakness. Meditation also cleanses our body and mind, which is extremely essential if we wish to stay in good health, not just physically, but also emotionally and spiritually.

According to research meditation improves focus

5. Plan the next day in advance: Before going to bed, imagine how the next day is going to turn out like. It won’t hurt to imagine that you’ve solved all problems in Accounts and the Balance Sheets match each time.

Kshitija explains why: Visualization is a powerful tool and even more so when we do it with conviction. When we can visualize ourselves managing our schedule and life well, things are more likely to turn out that way. As ‘The Secret’ philosophy goes, we attract what we think. So, if you visualize your next day to be a good one, it might actually turn out to be that way!

Planning is the first step to making your goals come true

Hope this helped, if you have a query, you can email to expert@teentalkindia.com.

 

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