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There is absolutely no doubt that bullying has adverse effects on the mind and the overall personality of the victim. However, there are certain things which can be done to feel less alone and overwhelmed when you are being bullied. Here are five tips that will come as handy to take care of yourself if you are being targeted by a bully.

1. Treat yourself well

You cannot control bullying. Though one thing that you can control is the way you look after yourself. Try to do something for yourself every day. It can be anything big or small, but it should be meant for you. This will definitely make you feel better.

2. Be active

Being active has immense benefits. Participate in any physical activity that releases endorphins, the hormone that gives you a rush of feeling good. You can join a dance class, join a sports club and be an active member of it.

3. Do things you love

It can be challenging to feel good when you’re not feeling your best. During such time, it is crucial that you connect with what you love doing the most. Think about the things which make you feel relaxed and happy, and then keep doing them repeatedly. It could be listening to music, watching your favourite sitcoms, etc.

4. Identify and improve your strengths

Whenever you feel low, focus on the things you’re good at, this will help you feel better about yourself. If you are unable to identify your strengths, you can ask your family member or a good friend who knows you well to do it for you.

If you still feel alone and need someone to talk to or someone to give you advice on how to handle bullying, our team of experts is always there to help. You can chat with us or write an email to [email protected]

1. Bullied out
My batch mates used to bully me in school. They would form a gang, catch hold of me and beat me up. Their favourite time used to be the recess. When I would share my story with others, surprisingly, they would not believe me. Even my dad did not pay much attention to it. However, once my mom came to school during recess and saw the others beating me up. She immediately reported the complaint to the Principal, and shifted me to another school. – Robin Masseyy

2. Pressure to succeed
Everyone has moments of doubt. Thoughts of failure can swarm in your mind leaving you restless and agitated. My mom always tried to re-affirm the fact that I can do better. There were times when my closest friends turned against me. They tried to pull me down by passing nasty remarks. My mom reminded me to have faith in myself. - Anonymous

3. Not being able to fit in
I was bullied in school by my closest friends. They would often take advantage of my nature and disrespect me. Not only did that make me feel lonely, it also affected my self-confidence. I shared the incident with my mother and she became a friend to me. She really picked me from there. 
– Anoushka Jain

4. Overcoming exam stress 
Whenever any project comes up, sometimes I am unable to coordinate things or be a good leader, that's when I stress out and don't feel I am capable of doing much. In such a situation it's my mom who always reminds me that I am capable of doing much more and the fact that I am trying makes me a winner already. My mom motivates me to become a better person and shows me the potential I do not see in myself. – Mimiksha Roy

5. Fending off negative emotions
From choosing career options to making daily life choices, my mom supports me. Her favourite line is, “don’t be soo pessimistic.” – Teesta Rawal

If you would like to share how you mom motivates you to be your best, send in your story at [email protected]