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5 ways to overcome shyness

Being shy is a normal part of growing up. Here are tips on overcoming the emotion.

Do you feel awkward talking to girls in your class? Does it feel odd to talk to relatives in a family function?

These are normal situations that life puts us in. We all have to learn to deal with it. There might be obstacles you might face when put in social situations. One of them is shyness. Some psychologists consider it to be a mild fear. However, being shy is a part of growing up. There is nothing wrong about it. But if being shy is stopping you from talking to others, there might be some steps you can take to overcome them.

1. Do you have low self-esteem?
According to research, shyness can be a result of low self-esteem. A stronger form of shyness can be social anxiety or social phobia. But let’s not go that far. One way of successfully overcoming low self-esteem is trying to figure out your strengths. Ask yourself: what activities make you feel most confident?

2. Talk about your strengths
When faced with unfamiliar people and situations, it is best to approach them confidently. But how do you do that when the mere thought of people scare you? It is by remembering your strengths and using them to your advantage. Your strength can be writing or the fact that you are good at cricket or even that you read a lot.

3. Do not worry about what others think about you
One of the primary reasons for shyness is an ego-driver fear of how other peers will perceive you. You might be caught up in a web of what others might think of you. Maybe in the past you might be subjected to criticism, rejection or humiliation. But remember, all situations do not have to be negative.

4. Say uplifting things to yourself
If you have a party to attend and you feel really uncomfortable, make a list of 3 things you appreciate about yourself. These can be simple stuff such as, “I am a good friend,” or “I crack funny jokes,” among others. Say these positive affirmations to yourself and you will feel better.

5. Being rejected is okay
When we try something new, we are bound to fail, But that does not mean that we are failures. It means that we are willing to try. You might face rejection in the beginning. People might make fun of you and might not talk to you. It is okay. What is not okay is giving up and remaining in your shell. Give it another try!

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What is Life?

Pranav Mandlik shares his thoughts on the importance of being confident.
Snigdha Teentalkindia Counsellor

 Life is a precious gift. It does not matter if you are poor or rich, it still remains precious. While life may seem a puzzle at times, it is up to us to either solve it or let it remain the way it is. As we grow older, we realise that life teaches us many lessons, we should strive to learn from them.   

I remember a quote from Ratan TATA, he said, "Ups and downs in life are very important to keep us going because a straight line even in an ECG means we are not alive.” His quote inspires me.

Some people live life as a race, their concern is to be the first one to finish the crossing line. However, life is about learning. While earning money is important but achieving happiness is also important. To live each day of your life as the last day of your life will help you figure out your priorities. Take risks and make your life memorable. It should be such that when you are taking your last breaths, you should feel satisfied that you tried everything.    

If you want any change in your life then first bring that change in yourself. Slowly, you will notice that the change you wanted has automatically taken place. We are always only one decision away from a totally different life. Another aspect about leading a happy life is to not compare yourself with people around you.

"Your mind can break you or it can make you. There can be a hopeless end or an endless hope. Either you can be strongly mental or mentally strong,” I live by these words. People might make fun of you or think that your questions are silly, I believe that questions cannot be good or silly.

I remember what my tution teacher said to me once, “Every field is a good field to build a career.” This is because everyone is unique. I rest my case with these words, “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard."

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