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Healthy media diet

Have you felt addicted to your screen? Have you felt that it is easier to WhatsApp or message a person rather than talk in person? Do you sometimes lose focus as you mindlessly toggle among apps not sure what you wanted to do in the first place? Have you sometimes found that your hand reaches for your phone almost on automatic mode before you can even think?

Over the past decade our worlds have witnessed massive changes in the way we have integrated tech and media into our lives. Our devices have become more functional but also indispensable. Media multi-tasking has become tiring and distracting.Although there is no one size fits all solution to this, here are five steps towards a healthy media diet….

Declare Tech Free Zones and Times:

Follow simple rules as “no phones at the dinner table” or “no texting after 9pm” or assigning certain areas of the home as tech free zones. Choose a rule and stick to it. Be accountable, perhaps a point system for following the plan maybe an incentive to the family.

Get the whole family to participate:

It is fun to walk the talk together and important that the whole family follows the rules together. The temptation is always greater when you see someone not following.

Go Greyscale:

Coloured apps are designed to trigger your brain reward system and make you feel good. By choosing greyscale you limit the attraction to the device.

Limit what is on your home screen:

Put all the apps that distract you like games social networking apps into folders and move them to the second or third screen. Out of sight will definitely put it out of mind… at least for some time.

Be you own policeman:

Download apps to track your screen time, like Moment and Unglue…. These throw up astounding results. You invariably always use your phone way more than you think! The good thing is that these apps come with interesting features like annoying bells that if activated can help you limit your screen usage.

One thing is clear screen usage is here to stay, but Go ahead give this diet a shot….it may get you back in control. Life is always making quality choices!!

Madhu Kampani is a multi-tasking mom to a supportive sometimes amused teenage son and a feisty 12-year-old daughter. She holds degrees in law and has specialized in Women and Children Law. She has dabbled in psychology and is a hungry reader. Having worked different jobs from a Mumbai law firm, compliance and risk at an investment bank to helping a foundation with its CSR efforts, she has learnt that there is always an alternative narrative! She is however, happiest when she is writing and putting to paper thoughts that she is most passionate about.

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The truth about pornography

You might think that pornography is harmless, read on to find out how it affects your perspective towards sex and relationships
Nishtha JunejaTeentalkindia Content Writer

Have you ever wondered why porn is often viewed in secret? Why does every discussion about pornography conveyed in hushed whispers. Let’s try to understand the psychology of porn:

Blue films used as stimulants

Many teenagers discover porn during adolescence. It is exciting and new. Many teens use it as a stimulant to masturbate. This can become addictive. Slowly, teens make excuses to avoid social gatherings or homework to watch porn videos. It starts to take over their lives.

According to Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist, these are the four stages of pornography:

1.Addiction: When a teen is addicted to watching porn videos every day and finds ways to watch porn on a regular basis.

2.Escalation: Over time, addicts require more explicit material to meet their sexual needs.

3.Desensitisation: What was first perceived as gross, shocking and disturbing, in time becomes common and acceptable.

4. Acting out sexually: There is an increasing tendency to act out behaviours viewed in pornography.

However, this can pose a serious concern in the later stages of their lives. There might be a possibility when teens would want to imitate porn stars. Sex in an intimate romantic relationship or marriage is not like a porn movie.

“Research has shown that pornography and its messages are involved in shaping attitudes and encouraging behaviour that can harm individuals and their families. In addition, pornography promotes the allure of adultery, prostitution and unreal expectations that can result in dangerous promiscuous behaviour,” according to Rajan Bhonsle.

Tips on getting rid of the addiction of watching porn videos by Teentalk India Expert Kshitija Sawant:

1.Sex Education is essential. Whenever, you get the opportunity to attend courses, programs or seminars on sex education, please do so as it will give you some realistic, insights on the concept of sex and reproduction.

2. Knowledge is Power: Once you have the required knowledge, you will come to realize that sex is appropriate in what kind of situations and inappropriate in certain other situations. It is not something that is ‘dirty’ but instead something that needs to be accepted as a way of living life.

3. Additional recreation is a must: As a teenager, it is important for you to channelize your energies by taking up a sport or a favourite past time activity like creative writing, dancing, painting to name a few.

4. Everyone time you find yourself feeling the urge to watch porn, relax, take a few deep breaths and meditate. This will help you to calm down and appreciate what nature has to offer you.




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