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How many of you have slept while texting your friend or while binge-watching Game of Thrones? Many. What do we do the first thing we get up in the morning, check the notifications on our phone. Keeping up to date with what’s happening around us is fine, but having anxiety about how many “likes” your new Instagram photo got is addictive behaviour. According to research, it is not healthy.

1.Before going to bed

“If I check conversations on the whatsapp group before going to bed, I spent hours on it. This makes me go to sleep late, and wake up groggy,” says a 16-year-old. Late-night conversations have their own charm, no one is denying that, but at the cost of limited sleep and a sick feeling in the morning. According to experts, light from the phone screen supresses the sleep hormone.
 

2. Waking up in the morning
This might sound insane. Not checking your phone before going to bed and upon waking up, then when exactly do I check my phone. Maybe after you’ve woken up and not exactly the moment you wake up.

3. The moment you feel bored
Most psychologists would advise you to designate particular hours to use your phone, but because of the changing times, it can be challenging. What you can do instead is check your phone when there is a need for checking it. For example, when you want to make a call or send an important text.
 

4. When you’re having a good time
Many people want to capture good moments and memories by taking lots of pictures on their phone. It’s an awesome way to remember the date you went on or the school trip. However, only taking pictures and putting them on social media might kill the fun of actually being in the moment and enjoying the camping trip with your friends. What is more fun, setting up a camp or taking a photo of setting up a camp?

5. When you’re having an intense conversation with a friend
It is really irritating when your friend wants to share his or her deepest thoughts with you, and all you care about is who is texting you. Psychologists have documented the importance of face-to-face conversation time and again. By that, they mean talking to and looking at the person in front of them and not on video call on your phone.

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Much is said and written about substance and alcohol addiction. We are constantly warned against harmful habits and are asked to tread carefully in the minefield of addictions. But what they often forget is to warn us against the less-known behavioral addictions. 

We may have given in to certain – seemingly harmless – addictions and not even know that we are indeed addicted! Well, it’s time to take charge of ourselves and change that. Let’s take a look at six possible behavioral addictions that may have quietly crept into our lives and got us without us even realizing it!

Phone

We live in the age of smart phones that are constantly being upgraded. The improved functionality of our devices is directly proportional to the likelihood of our addiction to it! Sure there is an app for everything today and the camera quality is ace, but if you have an unhealthy attachment to your device it’s time to do something about it.

Red flags –

• You suffer from sore and itchy eyes, blurred vision
• You have been experiencing neck pain
• You suffer from frequent headaches
• You have been experiencing disturbed sleep
• You are anxious and irritable without the phone  

Solution –

• Get rid of unnecessary apps
• Customize your notifications
• Turn phone off when sleeping
• Keep it on silent mode when you need to do other important things

Internet/ Television shows

We depend on internet more than we’d like to believe. Internet today is invading our work, social and even personal life! We are constantly looking for apps to help us through our life; traffic, groceries, food orders, you name it. With Netflix and Hotstar coming in, our screen time has shot up to hours. Binge watching is an addiction too.

Red flags –

• You feel lonely and depressed when you are offline
• You relate and see glimpses of a TV character in your own life
• You dream of living in your favorite show
• You watch more than 6 episodes in a row without moving
• You react strongly to happy and sad instances in the show

Solution –

• Follow only one show at a time
• Set an alarm or a timer so when it goes off you will know it’s time to stop watching
• Don’t eat your meals when you are watching
• Pledge to never waste a pleasant morning or a good evening indoors
• Set time for another hobby; read, run, cook. Take your pick.

Shopping

Shopping addiction is not gender specific. It is a simple case of your body releasing endorphins that stimulate the pleasure centers in your brain each time you make a purchase thus making it a habit. Shopaholics also shop to fight negative feelings like sadness and depression.

Red flags –

• You shop when you feel sad and depressed
• You spend more than you can afford
• Your shopping leads to fights
• You live in a constant guilt of shopping and you shop some more to fight it

Solution –

• Identify the triggers and make note of what makes you want to shop
• Discover the need that shopping fills, try to fill it with something else
• Swap shopping with something healthier
• Carry only enough money to get through your day

5 questions to find out if you are addicted 

* How many hours am I investing in that particular activity? 
* Is it beyond normal?
* How anxious/ frustrated do I get when unable to do it for a few hours?
* Have others mentioned that I am always busy doing it?
* Are other things taking a back seat in my life, are my grades getting affected?
* Do I keep busy doing it even though I am aware of the consequences?
 

Gaming

Video games are addictive because they are designed to get you addicted. They are designed to be challenging enough so you keep coming back till you win it. Plus the sense of achievement it gives you overpowers the fact that it keeps you from being productive.

Red flags –

• You feel restless when you are unable to play
• You are preoccupied with the thoughts of the game
• You isolate yourself from people to play this game
• You experience fatigue, migraines
• You maintain poor personal hygiene

Solution –

• Time your play time with an alarm
• Check if you still have real friends, virtual friends don’t last too long
• Start playing board games that involve real people
• Ask yourself if you are doing it to avoid real life issues/confrontations
• Check if it’s harming your real life relationships. 

Exercise

Exercise is a healthy habit till it turns into an obsession. If you find yourself getting an uncontrollable urge to exercise extensively then you might have a problem at hand.  

Red flags –

• You want to exercise even when you have an injury
• You are hyperactive with your workouts
• You feel irritable and anxious when you skip a workout
• You have an unhealthy fixation with muscle building, size zero
• Your life activities otherwise are suffering

Solutions –

• Build a supportive social circle
• Expand your hobbies and interests, read or watch movies
• Keep a tab of time you spend working out
• If you can’t find a way to stop yourself, get help

Love

Love is beautiful but obsession with the idea of being in love is unhealthy. If you feel that you can’t live without a particular person then know and accept that you are addicted to the idea of being in love.

 Red flags –

• You keep in constant touch
• You mistake romantic excitement or sexual encounters for love
• You are desperate to please your partner
• You are too scared to upset your partner
• You find it difficult to be alone

Solutions –

• Set healthy boundaries to your interaction with your partner
• Set personal goals and invest time in your personal development career/life
• Make time for other important people in your life
• Make an effort to deal with emotions more maturely
• Get help