Question : Everyone try to ignore me. What should I do? Teentalker , 15-year-old
Dear Teentalker,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concern. I understand your concern and am sorry you feel this way. Feeling ignored can be a very hurtful feeling. It is not an easy feeling to be able to deal with. So I commend you for identifying your emotions and reaching out for help. Feeling ignored can bring up a number of emotions. There are many children, even adults who feel the same way and do not open up about it. They suffer in silence as they may not know how to adequately deal with the feeling. It is important to ask who is ignoring you. Is it your parents? Friends? Teachers? Or everyone in general? Out of everyone ignoring you, who is it you would like attention from the most?
There are various ways in which one can feel ignored such as emotional needs to be fulfilled, literally not responding to you when you are in the room, not texting back or returning phone calls. There are multiple factors to consider. A few being:
- Identify what makes you feel this way. Try and write down what signs are there in those around you. For instance is it their behavior, or how they talk to you or what they must be thinking about you that makes you feel they are trying to ignore you?
- Try to understand your own emotions in this. Are you angry? Frustrated? Sad? Lonely? Anxious?
- Express yourself to your parents, close friends and those that genuinely care about you so they know you are feeling this way. It helps a lot to open up and clear confusions.
It is also important to note that at times others may be busy or involved in their own issues and may need time for themselves that may make them seem self-absorbed but actually, they are just focusing on their own work in that point of time. You can also work on your skills of how others can make time for you so you do not feel ignored. At the same time respect their personal time as well.
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Regards,
Expert Teentalk India